A Father Leads You Through This World…not just brings you into it.

A Father Leads You Through This World…not just brings you into it.

by: Ronovan

 

I met my father in the second grade. No, it wasn’t that he had been away for so many years or anything like that. My father is what you would call a step-father. Too me, he’s the real thing.

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The person that brings you into this world isn’t always a parent. It’s the person that raises you and helps you become what you are that is your parent. That could even be a grandparent really. For some that is who raises them. My grandmother, who I wrote about in Maw Maw’s Lovin’ raised two of my cousins.

 

But my father showed up in the second grade. He never tried to push any of his own thoughts onto me. In fact years later when I became heavily involved in church he said he didn’t know how it ended up happening because I didn’t get it from him. It’s not that he wasn’t a Christian it’s just that we didn’t go to church. My mother wasn’t a Christian so my father didn’t want to force anything on anyone. I never stepped foot inside a church until my 20s and that was on my own. He had been a Deacon and Sunday School Director and all of that. Oddly I ended up doing the same.

 

People have seen him, my step-brother and me together and say how much my father and I look alike and that my step-brother, his actual son, doesn’t favor him at all. I think it’s the mannerisms mostly that show a resemblance. Well that and we both can cook anything. I get my adventurous foodie from him.

 

I’m proof that it’s not just your DNA that makes you what you are, but your environment as well.

 

One of the stories I like best that he tells is about his time in the military. He doesn’t talk about it much though. But he and some men were flying into someplace. It was a smaller plane and the front landing gear wouldn’t lower. The pilot made them all move to the very back of the plane so as they landed the weight would keep the plane on the back wheels and slowly lower the front of the plane down as they slowed.

 

Another thing about him, and this isn’t really a flattering story but it does show something about him, is that every time he was promoted in the military, he would go out and ‘celebrate’ and be busted back down the next day. He didn’t want positions and promotions. That’s not why he was in the military.

 

He’s in his 80s now, but you would swear it’s his 60s. I know someday it’ll be a last Father’s Day. He’s been through some heart problems and now has diabetes, but he’s actually one of the healthiest people I know. He stays active and is in church.

 

Years ago he came close to dying…again…because of some medications he was given in a hospital. I called my pastor after having visited him because he had wondered why no preachers had been by his room. Back in the days a preacher would have come around to visit, but there are rules and laws now.

 

It was a Wednesday and my church has services on Wednesday nights and youth activities. Well, I called my pastor and told him what was going on and asked if maybe he could visit him the next morning because he was going into surgery and was asking about a preacher.

 

I came back the next day and my pastor had dropped everything on Wednesday, driven an hour away, sat with my father and talked, and then made it back for church. As soon as my father was able to drive again he was back in church for the first time in over 30 years. Sometimes people think that God does bad things for good reasons. But that’s not it. God takes bad things and turns them around to make good things happen.

 

On this Father’s Day I just wanted to say that it’s not who brought you into this world, it’s who helped lead you through it. If you only have a mother, wish her a Happy Father’s Day today…from me as well as from you.

 

Much Respect and Much Love

Ronovan

 

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17 thoughts on “A Father Leads You Through This World…not just brings you into it.

  1. i think it’s an amazing thing for those of us who’s step parents have ‘stepped up’ and taken on a role they didn’t have to and did a phenomenal job. i hope i can be to my step daughter what your father and my mother were to us.
    this was beautiful

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  2. He sounds great. Also I like this particular sentence: God takes bad things and turns them around to make good things happen.

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  3. Dear Ronovan,

    This is such a gift what you were able to write here. I am particularly moved because I married my husband because I knew he would be a good step father for my own son, and he is. Hearing your story gives me faith and hope that I did what was good for my son in bringing him a step dad who loves him very much.

    Thank you for your story.

    Blessings and peace to you, always,

    Allison

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    • You’re welcome. Knowing your heart through your work and your actions with with me I know you have made a great choice. That heart of yours is a wonderful thing.
      Much Love and Respect
      Ronovan

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  4. ‘God takes bad things and turns them around to make good things happen.’
    ‘it’s not who brought you into this world, it’s who helped lead you through it.’
    Wise words. Thanks for sharing!

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  5. Couldn’t agree more. I’m a step parent…. Although I never call them my step children. They are my children as if I gave birth to them myself. My son is a lot like me in mannerisms as well. It is my daily hope that I can help guide them positively through life. It is an honor being in their lives.

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