I remember a time long ago when . . . wait a minute. No I don’t. I love amnesia jokes. Only an amnesiac can tell them though, so don’t get any ideas. I’m looking at you, what’s your name. You know who I’m talking about.
Over a year ago I had an epiphany, well actually I had an accident in my home. I think of that day as “A loss of” my mind and think how it turns out that it was the best thing that could have happened to me in many ways. I got a chance to do something many people wish they could do but just don’t seem to find the time or maybe even courage to do. I got the chance to . . .
Choose To Let Go
You see, I have these writings about my past. I can delve into them daily in an attempt to become who I once was. I can read memories including old grudges. I can stumble over great long forgotten, even before last summer, nuggets of wonderful. Being able to choose, in someways, is “Finding Freedom” from all of those influences that led me to have certain opinions about things that were muddied with opinions and thoughts not quite as straight forward as they are now.
Yeah, I could become that old me.
Or and this is a BIG or.
I can choose to let go of a past and concentrate on becoming someone that I want to be. I have the important parts of that past in front of me so why not concentrate on those and making my life better? The important memories return as they need to, such as “Church Playground Memories” I wrote about several months ago about my son.
You know there are a lot of things in life you can’t control. I’ve discovered that. The one thing you can control is how your mind works. Do you love? Do you hate? Do you pick this meal or that meal? Do you read this book or that book? There are a great many things you can control.
One of those things you can control is choice. Choose to let go of those things in your life that just get in the way of you moving forward and becoming that kind, loving, creative, inspiring and whatever other positive words you can think of, person.
I had to let go of a lot of things. I even let go of family. Sounds bad doesn’t it? This part of my family was a negative influence on my recovery. Each time I see this family member’s name now, I think that negative thought. Some minds that have been damaged CAN’T let go of some things. So I did something I COULD do. I chose to remove contact with that person. You know when a family member makes jokes about your amnesia it’s a bit cruel. I’ve moved on from that, but I remember it. I chose to instead of being in contact with a relative I didn’t remember anyway and apparently didn’t have contact with for almost 20 years to focus on people that care about me now.
The mind, the heart, the body, all of you cannot heal without a positive environment. That is something I have discovered this past year. You have a problem? You can’t move forward? Look around you and see why. Then make a choice. Either stay and stagnate or move on and heal.
You’ll notice a few links today. Those are links to articles I’ve written about my dealings with my Amnesia.
Much Respect
Ronovan
For a different take on Choose To Let Go visit Meanings and Musings article of the same name by clicking the link.
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Letting go is very hard but I think there are times when it is vital to your survival. At least, that’s how I feel. I’m still learning to let go but I’m so glad that I’ve at least started the process.
I think it’s great that you are choosing to let go of those negative things. You could tie yourself up wasting tons of time trying to hold on to and figure it out and still end up having to let it go. Sometimes you just have to let it go.
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Please choose not to go all Frozen on me and sing Let it Go the rest of the day. And yes, I just put that in your mind. muahahahaaha
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hahahahaha I have a confession to make- at the end of that comment I actually hesitated with my hands hovering over the keys because I was just about to burst into Let it Go right there on your blog comments. 🙂
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Life is just too short to be with people who don’t accept us as we are…including so-called family members. I’m with you on moving on and being who you want and need to be.
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Hi, Ronovan. Thanks for sharing. I’ve tried to teach my kids and grandkids that life is full of choices. People say “You make me so mad.” No they don’t. No one makes you mad; you choose to be mad. Our emotions belong to us and we are the ones who control them. It isn’t always easy, but with God’s help it can be done. I’m living proof. I asked God to take my temper and replace it with His peace. It took a lot more times of getting mad, and quickly asking God to calm me down and help me react in peace before it became my normal way of handling things, but God did what I asked.
You are right. Sometimes we have to remove negativity from our lives. We are instructed by God to push evil away. God bless.
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https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2014/06/23/dont-allow-people-to-control-you/
You might like this article I wrote about a luncheon with a lady who was an executive at Coca-Cola. Part of her speech was about we ‘LET’ others control us. 🙂
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Oh my goodness, this is just the biggest piece of advice and help you could give to anybody who is feeling down and not wanting to let it go. You’ve written it so well and it speaks “let me help you move on”.
I sometimes get stuck in this rut and I’ll certainly remember this post when ever that happens again.
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Thank you. Letting go helps more than people realize. It’s the one thing you can do really.
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Ah, but how do you let go when the negative person in your life is you?
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You get amnesia.
For me I centered on my son, and my Bible studies and my positive friendships. As I gave them positivity I became more positive myself.
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Thanks, good point. I should be at least as kind to myself as I am to others, yes?
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Very true. One thing Jesus said was to Love your neighbor as yourself. I guess you can almost turn that around too. If you are loving others, why can’t you love yourself just as much? Soak it up. One of the reasons I think I try to encourage others is a bit selfish; it makes me feel good. And when I’m living in that positive environment of encouragement I can’t help but be up about myself because my thoughts are constantly on the positive side of things.
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Yes, I can see that also, we should practice what we preach 🙂
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