Ronovan’s Update Update

An update: My Mother came home Thursday, and without scheduled rehab or in home health care. Meaning I’m it. At about 9 pm or so on the same day we received a call that my father was fading. We made it to the hospital, was misdirected to his room. It took almost 10 minutes and a nurse to finally lead us to him, only to have missed his last moments of consciousness. We made the decision to obey his wishes. We went home and as we sat in our chairs the phone rang. He had just passed away. He waited until my mother was comfortable in her chair and safe in their home.

Now I’m with her and I have to say that helping to rehab a 68 y/o former nurse who just lost her husband of 45 years and knows nothing of finances is an experience.



I wanted to let everyone know that I’m still here. My mother fell and broke her hip early Thursday morning and I went to stay with my 89 year old father. Well at about 1 am this morning I had to call 911 for my father who has something called IPF. A lung condition.

She’s doing better and he is in ICU.

A wonderful 5 days.


15 thoughts on “Ronovan’s Update Update

  1. Ronovan, I can’t say that our Canadian Elder Care is perfect. Certainly, our Long Term Care Homes are incredibly flawed given the high death rate from Covid. I chair the Board of Directors for a small Home Support For the Elderly Organization (and we do a ton of other social and health service work as well). This almost ten-minute film was made two years ago to celebrate our home care history. Some of the dear participants have passed on but the film talks about how we envision home care.


  2. I’m so sorry for your loss, Ron.
    Please take care of yourself.
    My condolences to you and your mother.
    I wish you well, and I hope you can reach the right balance to help you care for your mum, or find the right care for her.


  3. Hi Ron, I am so sorry to read this. So sorry for the loss of your father, not helped by the mess up at the hospital.
    Your Mum must be devastated by her loss. Hopefully she will recover from her broken hip , you say she is 68yrs, she should heal and do well. You are going to need strengths and fortitude you didn’t know you owned. Be safe and well and again I am so sorry for your loss.💜💜


  4. I am so sorry for your loss and being a caregiver is hard although I have never had to do it full time. My dad took care of my mother most of her life due to early-onset Parkinson’s Disease. Now I am the parent needing the help of my children and I have to say it is difficult getting them to help me. My hope is to finally find a place in assisted living. I am still too young for a nursing home, but my issues are many.


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