You need to cry…to breathe. Men, I’m talking about us…you women too.

To the artificial us, the expected supposed to be, and to humanity begging to shine through, I give you one piece of advice. Cry. I began this thread of idea to speak to the men of the world and their need to cry, in order for them to release all the pent up fears, angers, humiliations, and confusions, but the audience later broadens to be all inclusive.

Through this release through crying we, as men, might avoid the catastrophes we inevitably create for ourselves. Catastrophes created by fear of failure, anger and humiliation leading to obstinance and inflexibility. Confusion of not knowing what to do with all these feelings we’ve been told and ingrained with not to let show, let alone to allow exist inside of us. Again, the fear of that confusion because if we have these sensitive thoughts, feelings, and reactions then people might think we are more woman than man.

But, as I thought of how men in society should support man to cry, I thought also of how women should let us cry as well. Then I realized that society doesn’t allow women to cry freely without judgement either. Crying is seen as weak. Crying by a man is often thought of as showing their feminine side, as though having a feminine side is a bad thing.

This led me to the thought of why we still refer to behaviors as feminine or masculine.

I believe crying and laughter are the two most powerful healing and coping mechanisms every person has available to them, and it’s free to do either. No prescription necessary or diagnosis required.

Just as men are seen as weak for crying, so to are women. I believe that view along with that about men has led to many wrong decisions in the 20th and 21st centuries that caused great losses. This is not just an opinion I have about the U.S. but one for all countries around the world. Some even worse than America itself.

Many of us have or will experience a life altering trauma. We’re afraid to admit it, afraid to show we are scared or hurting or completely lost. A good first step is to let yourself cry. It works. I speak from experience.

So to humanity, I once again say…cry, and cry often. But also remember to laugh just as much. It’s all about balance in ones life to have a good and healthy life.

Cry like a man?
Cry like a human.
Cry like a babe calling for the need of telling the world it needs relief of something.

Wash away the poisons of loss
of grief
of fear
of anger
of the loneliness of being you.

Cry from no one listening
of no one noticing
you are no longer the you they know or you recognize.

Cry…so you can then breathe…and laugh once again.

Open Your Mind and Run Free.

We spend most, and in some cases all, of our lives wanting to be something else or growing as a person or as a professional. During all of that time we are also learning to do the thing we keep wanting to be. We wait and wait and wait. 10, 20, or even 30 years down the line we sit down and make a list of what we need to do to be what we want to be. Before we finish the list the headache begins as we realize all the boxes we thought we needed to fill-in to move forward with our dream are being checked off as we go and that most of them were filled in years ago.

For some, that is when we get depressed and give up, thinking we have let it wait to late. Then there are those who stop making that list, throw it away (or delete it) and get to work on dream fulfilling.

Take it from the guy that wrote his first stories and book length manuscripts by the age of 25 but didn’t attempt to publish a book until 45, if you are reading this…start that list…stop after requirement number one. Because you already got it. Now you have time to make up. Get running. (Oh, and buy my Historical Fiction novel at Amazon by clicking on that book cover image on the side of my blog. Hey, I gotta try.)

A better you already exists.

NOW is the time to OPEN YOUR MIND

and let it RUN FREE.

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