The Power of Positivity.

The power of positivity. In order for it to change your life you have to understand a few things and apply it across the board.

Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. That was the verse I was given to study upon. Not a lot to go on there and of course I did as I always do and went to the book itself and read the verses leading up to and following it.

“12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

16 Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. 18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.” James 1:12-18

That’s a lot to throw at you but I liked it. It’s something I’ve reminded people from time to time when things have looked bad and they’ve looked weary at church. This always leads into questioning about what good is happening in life. The bad things can be powerful because they can loom large. One reason problems can be large is because we give so much power to things. It’s like when you have that one favorite TV show and you MUST see it every week. Then it gets cancelled. You feel it’s the end of the world. But then what happens? You find a new favorite.

But sometimes big things are big things. You still can’t let them control your entire life. The worry about them affects the other areas. Eventually that one thing ends up destroying everything else.

You know, some people like to use that old idea of a grain of sand turning into a pearl when they talk about how an irritant can bring about something wonderful. Well, that irritant is in one spot, it doesn’t move around to all areas of the oyster. The oyster lives a fine and happy life with a pearl.

It’s a struggle to work against the negative. Or it can be. Put with practice, focusing on the positive, you end up having the positive weed its way into the negative areas. It’s always better to go into a job interview with a good and positive attitude than a negative one.

Ronovan

Romans 1:16

Time for a change.

Time for a change, don’t you think? As some of you may have noticed, I don’t really blog much these days, months, or however long it’s been. I guess I just haven’t really known what I’ve wanted to do, among other reasons. Sometimes you have to make choices between things, and blogging comes up second or last.

That being said, I’ve decided to focus, or continue to focus on positive things. What you’ll see from me are articles about how to make your life more positive and hopefully more satisfying. No one has all the answers but with more answers given, we can at least have something to choose from.

At the same time, I’ll be helping myself focus on things I need to. Also I tend not to post about my writing here as a courtesy, but you know, it is my blog, so if I want to share a chapter of something, I’ll share it.

It’s funny how we as bloggers trend away from what makes us happy about blogging and instead do things to please others. Eventually that causes burnout or a malaise about the whole thing. That happens in a great may parts of our lives.

I’ll be speaking about that this week, so see you on Monday, and start today enjoying your week ahead by saying no to something instead of always saying yes.

If you wonder what I’ve been doing with all my time lately, check out LitWorldInterviews.com, my book review and interview site. I’ve been reading a lot and interviewing a lot, all while getting my coming of age/romance ready to shop around to agents.

Much Respect

Ronovan

Don’t Let it Go … Hold on.

Today is a day unlike any in the history of the world. We are existing at a moment that has never taken place before. In these moments we breathe, and think, and love, we exhale the past filled with the air of anxiety, doubt, and confliction.

Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a perfect world? Would we know it was perfect if there was nothing to compare? I’m thinking out loud at the moment. I’m not certain how much of this will make it to my clicking on publish, but I like to write out loud. It’s a great time to exist.

One of the first articles I ever shared was about how not to allow others to control you. People took from that, that you shouldn’t let people keep you from your dreams. That’s true on one level. Then there is the internal happiness. One emphasis I’ve had on my blog for quite some time is positivity. With life constantly bombarding us daily with negativity at every turn, especially the media, it’s nice to have a circle of the world that brings you positive influences.

I’ve been fortunate to have a great blog family and group of followers who encourage what I do, support my efforts, even when they come up short of my norm. We all need that. I think if we don’t we end up coloring our world with negativity at every turn.

Taking my deep breaths as one accomplishment has occurred and I set my eyes on the next, I let go of things.

That’s wrong. Letting go is a negative way of looking at things. It’s a form of giving up. Instead of Let It Go, think to “Hold on.”

Hold on to what is important.

Hold on to what you love.

Hold on to what gives you joy.

To what do you hold on?

Hold On by Ronovan Hester

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Thanks, a warning, and Wednesday is Coming.

Howdy Y’all,
I just wanted to let everyone know that I hope not to be doing a ton of book promotion here on my blog site. I do have a responsibility to do everything in my abilities to help make this book successful. When you have a co-author, it isn’t all about you. PS Bartlett and I both agree we do this for the joy of writing and the knowledge that people are reading and enjoying our book. If all we make is the cost of doing the book, okay. (Sure, we want it to be a top seller, but as long as you aren’t losing money on something and doing what you love, you can breathe a little deeper.)

A lot of what I’ll be sharing are blogs I am doing on other sites as a guest. Some of these are How To articles we can all use. I enjoyed doing them because they made me walk through the process and thus see it more clearly myself.

I’ll keep mixing in the usual, and hopefully some unusual. Look for a special interviewer that will be popping in to interview me about the book. Don’t worry, I think you’ll enjoy it. He’s not your everyday ordinary type of interviewer.

I have been getting a good deal of praise for my storytelling and character development from those who have read the book. I’m going to be honest here, I worked hard and I am proud of those words of encouragement in the reviews. One thing that hasn’t been mentioned is how well PS Bartlett did in coming in behind me, once I completed the initial drafts, yes I said drafts, I did so many that I lost count, all in about 5 weeks, but Blonde Bartlett the Sea Siren took what I did and was able to give it her touches, tighten it up where needed, and add the appropriate ship and pirate jargon required while keeping the book a fairly smooth read. Okay, so I did throw in one heck of a storm in there that wasn’t so smooth for poor old Captain Gabriel Wallace, but it served its purpose. So here now I say thank you to Bartlett for depending on and trusting in me to create a story and characters that end up playing such an important part in her world of pirates. I thank you for giving me free rein to do all I wanted to do and more.

If you enjoy the cover of Amber Wake: Gabriel Falling, Bartlett is the creator thereof, and is beginning to work as a book cover creator for other authors. You can contact her through her site if you wish. PSBartlett.me

For those of you have purchased my book, thank you so much. Some of you have mentioned it, only as a way of showing your support. I know you are not mentioning it to point out you purchased it. I can’t think of a single one of the people that speak up, read, or participate here on RW that does anything to gain attention for the self. We are truly a big happy family of bloggers from all over the world.

If you do read the book and like it, please put up a review on Amazon. If you don’t like it, I sincerely ask you to email me submit your opinions and concerns through my Contact Form on my About Page. I may not take your advice, but I will take it into consideration.

Also if you do purchase the book, if you’ll take your photo with it, either up on your Kindle or with the paperback and email the photo to me at ronovanwrites (at) gmail (dot) com, I would like to share it with everyone, maybe on a page of my author site or something like that. If you don’t, don’t worry about it. This is just an idea I got while I was writing this. I am a bit random at times.

Much Respect
Ronovan

BeWoW and Writer's Quote Wednesday

Remember Wednesday is Writer’s Quote Wednesday on SilverThreading.com with Colleen Chesebro and #BeWoW here on RW. I combine the two by coming up with a positive quote or series of quotes to share about a person who has done something good in the world or been a positive influence. #BeWoW stands for Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday. A day of sharing positivity instead of negativity. Colleen and I each share a post, and all you do is either paste your link in our comments, or link back to our posts. With mine, you tweet with the Hashtag of #BeWoW and people should RT your tweets.

Below is the link back to my post for Wednesday.

https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2016/02/17/w-somerset-maugham-quotes/

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Amber Wake

#BeWoW & Writer’s Quote Wednesday is Tomorrow.

BeWoW Network BadgeTomorrow is #BeWoW.

You’ll find a prompt and inspiration below.

And remember, if you have Twitter, RT those #BeWoW Tweets.

 

The Why & What & How

And that means “Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday and make the world a better place to visit.” You do this by sharing your inspirational and positive posts, books, poetry, even favorite get you movin’ music videos. You use #BeWoW as a hashtag on Twitter and as  tag, if you like, on your post so people can find all of the offerings in the WP Reader if they want to go that route.

Put the URL link back of my #BeWoW post (Found below and not life until posted.), which goes out at 00:01 New Your City time on Wednesday, or put a link to your post in the comments of my post so as people begin visiting us more and more, they can find your inspiring work. Link backs and links in comments should not be over done, in other words, No Spamming. I doubt this will be a problem, but we don’t want people visiting a whole string of one person’s posts that really aren’t geared for the idea of #BeWoW. Let’s keep the experience positive.

https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2015/10/28/a-haiku-perspe…-rochelle-aben/

And to Make the Most of Your Post, make certain to see if you can make your article work with Colleen Chesebro’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday over on SilverThreading.com Click that link and see the general idea. Visit the Make the Most of Your Post article link above for details of what I mean by making the most.

The facebook Group

If you’re on facebook, you can join our #BeWow Network of Writers group and share your post there. For now, it can be individual posts. In the future it might end up being under a dedicated Update for the given day. I’m still looking at all

the options to make it work the best. Also, if time permits, I’ll even share those updates through my own facebook, blog page. Why if time permits? I’m working on a novel and really want to get it done. I know a lot of you feel my pain there.

Prompt and Suggested Inspiration

Now for a suggestion or prompt of what you can do for a #BeWoW post. My post is titled “A Haiku Perspective-Annette Rochelle Aben”. Okay so this one is a little different. The quote I will be using is a little bit selfish of me to do, it’s from her latest book that came out last week, A Haiku Perspective 2015. The idea for all of you would be to talk about a worth while project you know about that helps people. Perhaps one that is a little lesser known.

Not working for you? You might also visit my Haiku Challenge for some inspiration, although it’s a bit of a real challenge this week. Sometimes they are like that.

Share what you got. Make the most of what you got. And make new friends while making the world a better place to visit.


Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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#BeWoW & Writer’s Quote Wednesday is Tomorrow.

BeWoW Network BadgeTomorrow is #BeWoW.

You’ll find a prompt and inspiration below.

And remember, if you have Twitter, RT those #BeWoW Tweets.

 

The Why & What & How

And that means “Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday and make the world a better place to visit.” You do this by sharing your inspirational and positive posts, books, poetry, even favorite get you movin’ music videos. You use #BeWoW as a hashtag on Twitter and as  tag, if you like, on your post so people can find all of the offerings in the WP Reader if they want to go that route.

Put the URL link back of my #BeWoW post (Found below and not life until posted.), which goes out at 00:01 New Your City time on Wednesday, or put a link to your post in the comments of my post so as people begin visiting us more and more, they can find your inspiring work. Link backs and links in comments should not be over done, in other words, No Spamming. I doubt this will be a problem, but we don’t want people visiting a whole string of one person’s posts that really aren’t geared for the idea of #BeWoW. Let’s keep the experience positive.

https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2015/10/21/a-cheer-full-life/

And to Make the Most of Your Post, make certain to see if you can make your article work with Colleen Chesebro’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday over on SilverThreading.com Click that link and see the general idea. Visit the Make the Most of Your Post article link above for details of what I mean by making the most.

The facebook Group

If you’re on facebook, you can join our #BeWow Network of Writers group and share your post there. For now, it can be individual posts. In the future it might end up being under a dedicated Update for the given day. I’m still looking at all

the options to make it work the best. Also, if time permits, I’ll even share those updates through my own facebook, blog page. Why if time permits? I’m working on a novel and really want to get it done. I know a lot of you feel my pain there.

Prompt and Suggested Inspiration

Now for a suggestion or prompt of what you can do for a #BeWoW post. My post is titled “A Cheer Full Life”. As you may ascertain from the name it will be about what brings cheer to my life. You might see different medium covered in the post.

A quote from my author of choice last week, Thomas Carlyle, on this subject:

Thomas Carlyle quote on Cheefulness
Not working for you? You might also visit my Haiku Challenge for some inspiration, although it’s a bit of a real challenge this week. Sometimes they are like that.

Share what you got. Make the most of what you got. And make new friends while making the world a better place to visit.


Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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#BeWoW & Writer’s Quote Wednesday Tomorrow. Join ’em!

Tomorrow is #BeWoW. You’ll find a prompt and inspiration below.

BeWoW Network Badge

The Why & What & How

And that means “Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday and make the world a better place to visit.” You do this by sharing your inspirational and positive posts, books, poetry, even favorite get you movin’ music videos. You use #BeWoW as a hashtag on Twitter and as  tag, if you like, on your post so people can find all of the offerings in the WP Reader if they want to go that route.

Put the URL link back of my #BeWoW post (Found below and not life until posted.), which goes out at 00:01 New Your City time on Wednesday, or put a link to your post in the comments of my post so as people begin visiting us more and more, they can find your inspiring work. Link backs and links in comments should not be over done, in other words, No Spamming. I doubt this will be a problem, but we don’t want people visiting a whole string of one person’s posts that really aren’t geared for the idea of #BeWoW. Let’s keep the experience positive.

https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2015/10/14/perseverance-or-is-it-love/

And to Make the Most of Your Post, make certain to see if you can make your article work with Colleen Chesebro’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday over on SilverThreading.com Click that link and see the general idea. Visit the Make the Most of Your Post article link above for details of what I mean by making the most.

The facebook Group

If you’re on facebook, you can join our #BeWow Network of Writers group and share your post there. For now, it can be individual posts. In the future it might end up being under a dedicated Update for the given day. I’m still looking at all

the options to make it work the best. Also, if time permits, I’ll even share those updates through my own facebook, blog page. Why if time permits? I’m working on a novel and really want to get it done. I know a lot of you feel my pain there.

Prompt and Suggested Inspiration

Now for a suggestion or prompt of what you can do for a #BeWoW post. My post is about perseverance. It was an interesting trip as I went through what that really means.

Not working for you? You might also visit my Haiku Challenge for some inspiration, although it’s a bit of a real challenge this week. Sometimes they are like that.

Share what you got. Make the most of what you got. And make new friends while making the world a better place to visit.


Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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#BeWoW & Writer’s Quote Wednesday Tomorrow. Join ’em!

Tomorrow is #BeWoW. You’ll find a prompt and inspiration below.

BeWoW Network Badge

The Why & What & How

And that means “Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday and make the world a better place to visit.” You do this by sharing your inspirational and positive posts, books, poetry, even favorite get you movin’ music videos. You use #BeWoW as a hashtag on Twitter and as  tag, if you like, on your post so people can find all of the offerings in the WP Reader if they want to go that route.

Put the URL link back of my #BeWoW post (Found below and not life until posted.), which goes out at 00:01 New Your City time on Wednesday, or put a link to your post in the comments of my post so as people begin visiting us more and more, they can find your inspiring work. Link backs and links in comments should not be over done, in other words, No Spamming. I doubt this will be a problem, but we don’t want people visiting a whole string of one person’s posts that really aren’t geared for the idea of #BeWoW. Let’s keep the experience positive.

https://ronovanwrites.wordpress.com/2015/10/07/comfort-food-maybe-not/

And to Make the Most of Your Post, make certain to see if you can make your article work with Colleen Chesebro’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday over on SilverThreading.com Click that link and see the general idea. Visit the Make the Most of Your Post article link above for details of what I mean by making the most.

The facebook Group

If you’re on facebook, you can join our #BeWow Network of Writers group and share your post there. For now, it can be individual posts. In the future it might end up being under a dedicated Update for the given day. I’m still looking at all

the options to make it work the best. Also, if time permits, I’ll even share those updates through my own facebook, blog page. Why if time permits? I’m working on a novel and really want to get it done. I know a lot of you feel my pain there.

Prompt and Suggested Inspiration

Now for a suggestion or prompt of what you can do for a #BeWoW post. My post is going to be about food. Perhaps comfort food. Maybe you would like to talk about your favorite dish or meal and the memories attached to it. Or you could share a recipe, photos of the food, history of the food, or anything else like that. Perhaps you like bacon and are dressing up as bacon for Halloween this year. Is this a recurring them? Do you have a photo of a bit of your bacon fetish?

Not working for you? You might also visit my Haiku Challenge for some inspiration, although it’s a bit of a real challenge this week. Sometimes they are like that.

Share what you got. Make the most of what you got. And make new friends while making the world a better place to visit.


Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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Make the Most of Your Post.

Yesterday was #BeWoW day here on Ronovan Writes.

What does that #BeWoW mean? Be Writing on Wednesday to Be Wonderful on Wednesday and make the world a better place to visit. That means no negativity, inflammatory, or derogatory writing.

BeWoW Network Badge

A long time ago I began a focused effort to write positive posts of encouragement and inspiration. I used #BeWoW as the hashtag that day and thus was born #BeWoW day.

If you have something you’ve written, be that a poem, flash fiction, advice, or some other kind of post I haven’t mentioned and it isn’t something negative or derogatory then share by linking back to the #BeWoW post of that day here on Ronovan Writes or Pasting your link into the comments of that post, and use the #BeWoW hashtag on Twitter.

Are you liking the idea? Are you worried you’ll forget? I am thinking of going back to putting out my reminders on Tuesday with a possible Prompt to get the juices flowing, just like I used to do in the beginning.

If you don’t already participate in my Haiku Challenge, you could use that as your inspiration for something to write and all it would take is a poem three lines long and you might end up with a few more friends than before. (The Challenge has at least 40 Bloggers each week join in.)

Wednesday is a slow day for blogging. A great many people put a lot of energy into Mondays or Fridays. I wanted all that time ago when I thought of my positive posts  to have a way of helping to boost some traffic to blogs on Wednesdays. For me it’s not about how many Views I get, I like how many People show up. If I have 1 more person show up than did last Wednesday to my blog, I am a happy person, even if I have 20 fewer views.

Why am I doing this? No it’s not so I have more visitors to my blog. You can ask those who participate in my Haiku Challenge why I do that link share. It’s not for me. It’s a way for people to grow a community. The Haiku Challenge has done so great at community building I would like to see #BeWoW do the same.

Join in. And see you next Wednesday. I’ll be writing something about comfort food and using a quote from an Author to tie in with Colleen Chesebro’s Writer’s Quote Wednesday on SilverThreading.com. See, I do two in one that way.

And THAT is the secret to make the most out of your post. Sharing it, take advantage of communities that WANT to see your work you’re already doing anyway, and including multiple communities in one post. And make sure to give it time. A community doesn’t build in one week or even one month. It takes time, but it will grow.

We have a group page on facebook, just creator as this post was created. We truly want this to succeed and be something positive. Click here to go there. It’s a place to join and share links as well.

To paraphrase a famous movie life, “Link it, and they will come.”

NOTE: The #BeWoW badge above is transparent around the image itself.

Much Respect, Much Admiration, and Much Love
Ronovan

Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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Your thoughts are your own.

Ever had someone say “Depending on your opinion I would have to ask what you’re thinking?”

I have and my response has been silence in the past because I just don’t care enough about the person’s thoughts on what I think, but now I decided to share my opinion about what I’m thinking.

If I or you have an opinion, it really isn’t up to someone else to question it. The only time that even becomes a thing is if you are in a debate. Sorry, but my life isn’t a debate with anyone. You ask, I give, you receive. That’s pretty much it.

I give in a gentle manner. At least to start with. I haven’t really “gone off” on someone, as they say. Or at least not in the traditional sense of the word.

Last week I gave two prompt words in my Haiku Challenge, Free and Think. You are free to think whatever you like. If we had thought police we would all be in jail. We all think some pretty whacked out stuff.

Could you imagine there being “Hate Thought Laws”? I mean think about it. “Man, I really think the president sucks.” The next thing you know you have someone in dark glasses and a suit at your door.

It’s not the thoughts that matter. It’s what you do with them. I may not like someone, but as long as I don’t do anything to them or speak in a too harsh manner then I’m good. I may say I don’t like someone. I don’t have to say why. But if I don’t and that person is of a different ancestral background than I am, can you guess what people will say?

Even if I say “I don’t like the guy because he’s a jerk,” people are still going to think what they want to. For example, I am not a big Obama fan, okay, I’m not an Obama fan at all. I’m from the South, I’m a white skinned male in his 40s. Guess what people will say my reason for not liking Obama will be.

Of course people would be wrong. But you know what? They have a right to think what they want to. Thinking is good. I get a lot of problems solved that way, a lot of issues with people sorted out that way. Thinking through things and even having an argument with someone in your head will save a lot of trouble with people.

Most of the time when I do that I end up realizing how silly something was to begin with. It’s a coping or therapy really.

Thinking is good. Policing my thoughts isn’t. Keep your filthy paws off my private thoughts. (Okay, so the Grease homage there didn’t work out quite right but I tried.)

Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan

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Acceptance to A Better Future.

Yesterday in my article Peacemaker to Positivity I mentioned accepting the events of your life in order to be at peace with yourself and to use those events to help others who experience similar things. That’s a lot to ask of someone.

There are events in this world that are difficult to accept. But you are either accept them or ALLOW them to run and ruin your life. And events are events. They are moments in time. Moments that have already happened and cannot be changed.

We all go through the “If only I had…” moments. Those are the “I am holding myself back” moments. If you are a parent you try and do things through you child you wish you had done. As a spouse you want to be more perfect than whatever your parents were.

We are going to fail in both of those. Our children are not us, so whatever they do is for them, not us. And our parents were them and not us. No matter what others do, it is them that do it. By accepting and moving on we can become a success at something on our own, for our own. We can help other people.

I know there are those moments that are truly horrible, but what can you do about them? Don’t ALLOW them to turn you into something you aren’t. Don’t ALLOW anyone to win over your life but you.

 

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Stand Up to Release.

caroline kennedy quote imageIt is not easy to stand up against your constituents or your friends or colleagues or your community and take a tough stand for something you believe is right. Because you always want to keep working and live to fight another battle and it might cost you your career.”~Caroline Kennedy

How often do people like to tell you that what you think is wrong or what you believe is wrong? And how often do you then stay quiet or back down?

A lot of people complain about the world but are silent when it comes to the things they have problems with.

Part of being positive in the world, finding your positive place and place of peace is to release those things inside of you. If you believe in something, then live that something. If you believe something is right, then stand up for that something.

Negativity comes from regrets. Regrets come from not doing things you should do. How often is your mind filled with those missed chances at standing up for what you believe in? More often than you think. Your fantasies and dreams stem from missed chances. You may think about a better job. Maybe that better job you want is because you missed an opportunity you thought should be yours.

Do you think about possible relationships? Broken relationships? Maybe even a current relationship that is poison?

Fear keeps people from standing up for what they think is right. That fear will lead to a life time of negativity, doubt, sadness, regrets. You don’t have to confront people, you can simply say that it’s over and be done with it. Walk away.

Other issues require speaking up. I know for a fact that anger can build up by being silent. That anger interferes with attaining the peace you want. Look at the quote at the beginning. If people don’t accept you for you and what you are and believe, then you don’t need them, they aren’t your friend or people you need to be around or a workplace you need to be in.

Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan

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In the Quiet Hours. Find Positivity.

Confucious Silence is a Friend

In the Quiet Hours. Last week I discussed Creating a Positive Environment and how you needed to be serious about it and how there would be difficult decisions to be made. Something unusual happens when you enter a quiet place. That place being the newly formed room in your chaotic mind.

Do you really want to be rid of negative relatives? I pretty much no longer speak to one of mine. I have reflected on that and came to realize something. I came to realize how that break actually came about.

Over the past weekend I lost my peaceful world for a time. I was angry with the citizens of my nation and their ugliness in exchanges over various issues. I was angry at myself and my situation in which parts of I have no actual control at the moment, but I am working on it. I was angry at the drop of a hat.

I tell you this to show you that there are times you slip out of that Positive Environment. Why? Because we are human and our brains are truly chaotic. AND our brains are connected to our hearts. Those hearts do so much good and so much damage.

fancis bacon silence nourishes wisdomAm I angry now? I have turned anger into disappointment. Disappointment is something I can handle. I can eventually turn disappointment into a moment in time in a string of events to a better time. I can examine and grow myself by learning what I felt and thought during those anger moments.

To learn I need a quiet room in my mind. I need those Quiet Hours. Quiet Hours lead to quiet times, quiet environments. By being the person you want to be, others see it. They will either like it, accept it or they will reject it. If they reject it and you are someone they cannot push around with their words and antagonizing, they slowly leave your environment, or quickly do so.

In other words, you don’t need to tell a negative person to leave your life, they will do it on their own when they can no longer handle the shining light of positivity and happiness you exude all the time.

Now you can actually confront and remove someone from your life but that’s a decision for you to make. It also depends on how bad that person is in your life. No situation is the same. There is silence of the mind and silence in wisdom and there is also the silence in cowardice. This is not the  later. That is a discussion for another time.

helen keller content in whatever stateI found the below after I wrote the article and came up with my title. I don’t believe in coincidences. I and Find Positivity to the title after I had completed putting this article together.

This may not load in all regions. You can also find it on Spotify and Rhapsody. It is also the name of the album, track two I believe.

In the Quiet Hours

You will light my way.

So needless our words.

Let’s just spend the day.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Habits-Good or Bad?

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On Monday I wrote an article titled Let a moment just be a moment and as a result of comments I began thinking a little bit. No comments from the usual suspects please about me thinking.

Emotional reactions and assignment of labels to events are habits. That can be good or bad or if you would rather you can call them beneficial or non-beneficial, as I often look at them that way myself. Some ‘good’ habits may not be beneficial or necessary. Recognition that you have these habits, either in a good or bad way, is a great benefit to you.

Knowing you have created habits through the years, and if you examine your life you will likely see where certain habitual reactions began, you can either work to continue on a positive path to increase those beneficial reactions or work to decrease those negative ones that cause harmful effects on your life.

I know there are people out there that think how you are is how you are going to be forever. Let me tell those people this. “You’re wrong.”

Here’s the deal, yes, pretty much all of our lives are habits. Every aspect of our lives involves habits, other than the biological process such as breathing and the like. And even with breathing you can create a habit or routine manner of breathing in situations.

Think about that one for a moment. If you think when someone talks about your Momma you have to hit them or insult them back, then you’ve got a habit going on and you’ve also ALLOWED that person to own you for a time. They got you. They know your sore points, your weaknesses.

Just like in boxing when fighters prepare for an opponent they are training to how that opponent fights. They know what their opponent’s favorite moves are. If you don’t have habits then you can’t be owned as easily, including not being owned by your own weak mindedness.

Overcome your negative view of not being able to control your habitual reactions and thoughts through creating healthier habits of positivity. A way to begin is by looking at that List of Negatives I asked everyone to create a few weeks ago and think about how they became negatives. Examining and understanding your emotions and thought processes is one of the key factors of creating a positive you. A positive you is not just for you alone, it’s for all those who associate with you.

Everyone you know will benefit from a more positive you.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Feeding is not nourishing… by @FTThum

An Awesome post written for #BeWoW. Well, I think it was written for far more than that but it happened to coincide with it. I know she worked on this a few days and it came out great. A definite MUST READ for everyone. Seriously. Don’t miss this one.

MEANINGS AND MUSINGS

Busy-ness and stress are no strangers in my life. I am adept at managing it all. To replenish my energy, I meditated, slept the requisite 6 hours, ate nutritious food, made lists and check them off – everything to ensure daily life ticks over as it should. Well, I probably could have gotten more than 6 hours sleep if I ‘gave up’ writing but life would be unbearable :-).

Then a friend reminded me to nourish myself. It was then I realised in the midst of ‘doing’ living, I’d somehow forgotten to care for myself. You see, to look after myself as in to nourish myself takes more than eating the right foods and sleeping the recommended number of hours. I know this.

In essence, nourishing is more than meeting biological or physiological needs. Nourishing is about feeding the spirit and soul. By the way, nourish comes from the…

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Let a moment just be a moment.

I have been suffering a very bad migraine the past couple of days. Early this morning, not able to sleep, I decided to try a little meditation. I actually try various things to bring myself into a more positive mindset. No, I am not part of the mindfulness group. I haven’t done any research on it as of yet, as I am writing my own thoughts about some things first, and would rather they not be influenced at their base level.

As I meditated, my mind drifted. No surprise there. During meditation I was focusing on the breaths and the rising and falling of the body with each one. I focused on simply existing in that moment. That’s when the thought of positive and negative as not existing in the moment of being came to me. A moment does not acquire a label until we assign one to it. And that moment is gone before we can even give it a name.

I thought about why people can be so confused and depressed about things. A chain of moments are made up of what people would call both positive and negative moments. Our minds have difficulty processing what we think of as negative also having positive moments within it. But perhaps it is the labels that are the problem. Perhaps that moment is not a positive but not a negative either. Perhaps the moment simply is.

If you want to look at being positive as being without negatives, then try simply being. No, it won’t always work out that way, but it will a lot more often than you realize. We label things way too much. A glass breaks, and we get upset. Why? It’s a broken glass. It’s not a broken person. Perhaps it was an antique or had special memories attached to it. Yet, it is a glass. Don’t let a broken glass spiral you into something you can’t get yourself out of.

Sounds a little over the top? How many of you have found someone crying over something broken? You think the person is being a little silly about it, you just don’t quite understand even though you try. But that person labeled moments attached to those items.

Work on simply being, existing in the moment. Let a moment just be a moment.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Live in the Now, not in the Then.

“The only use of an obstacle is to be overcome. All that an obstacle does with brave men is, not to frighten them, but to challenge them.”~Woodrow Wilson

Two weeks ago I asked you to Make a List of Your Negatives, while last week I said to get rid of one of those negatives. Two problems with that last one. One, the article was long and few people read it. The other problem, for those who read it I imagine you were expecting me to tell you how to get rid of those negatives. By the way, there was more to the article than ‘get rid of one of those negatives’.

Today I’ll attempt to be brief and tell you how to be rid of negatives.

X Out the Past and 0 Out Your Future

Let’s take your list of negatives in their nice columns and for every negative that comes from a past event place an x beside it. For every negative whose source lies in the future, in other words something you are wanting but can’t have yet or may never have, place a little circle beside it.

Now realize you are looking at things that cannot be reached or dealt with in the present. Wait before you start yelling about controlling what might happen in the future.

Those Past Negatives are in the past. Unless you want to apologize to someone or forgive someone, you are most likely out of luck. Drop those Past Negatives. And if you haven’t apologized or forgiven in all these years and are having problems with it, that’s called Regret. You can visit my Regrets are where they belong, in the past from this past Wednesday for some good quotes about regrets.

Know You Are In The Now

Expecting anything from someone else is a Negative you will never control. That’s one Negative you are to never allow to take a rest in your mind. It’s time to live in the now, not the yesterday, not the future, but the now. Here. Now. Not in the what you wished you had or what you hope to have, but in the what you have. You can work toward what you want to have some day, but that’s some day. That’s a goal, not a Negative.

Take your list, do the x’s and o’s and start working your way through those x’s. And really, if you are strong enough, you can toss them all, but if you haven’t already done that, then you most likely will need to take the baby steps I’ve talked about previously. There is no hurry, no race, no trophy.

You need to:

  • Think about why that Negative happened
  • What you had to do with it
  • Why it is still hanging with you
  • What can you do about it
  • What it has done to your life
  • Then realize it is over

That last part is the most difficult. Read through the article again and you’ll see why you are to let it go and let it be over. You’re in control of it all. Don’t ALLOW anything, especially a memory to control YOU.

Live in the here and now, and enjoy life.

“When faced with a challenge, happy families, like happy people, just add a new chapter to their life story that shows them overcoming the hardship. This skill is particularly important for children, whose identity tends to get locked in during adolescence.”~Bruce Feiler

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Regrets are where they belong, in the past.

“Those who enjoy their own emotionally bad health and who habitually fill their own minds with the rank poisons of suspicion, jealousy and hatred, as a rule take umbrage at those who refuse to do likewise, and they find a perverted relief in trying to denigrate them.”~Johannes Brahms

When you go through life you end up running across people who, for some reason, think you are a threat to them. It has nothing to do with you having done anything wrong. I’ve seen examples of a lot of what Brahms spoke of above.

I watch interviews with these old professional wrestlers I watched when I was a kid. I do so in part because they were part of a time when I lived with my grandmother, back around 6 or 7 and when we visited her later on as well. It’s amazing how jealousy turned people you thought of as good guys into such bitter old men.

You have those types in every type of profession and every walk of life.

“Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”~Miguel Angel Ruiz

Ruiz speaks the truth, right to the core of my thinking. Regrets are like a disease, a virus that spreads though your body. The more you feed it the more it will grow until it is all consuming. You abuse others for your regrets, your jealousy of those who did what you regret you didn’t do.

Regrets are easy to let go. Much like those memories of the first grade you can’t think of, regrets are in the past. I know, some regrets you have might be in your face every day.

“Regret is an odd emotion because it comes only upon reflection. Regret lacks immediacy, and so its power seldom influences events when it could do some good.”~William O Rourke

“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.”~William James

The above two quotes explain exactly what purpose regrets serve and how to move on from them or even avoid having them. The quote by William James goes along with something I said recently.

“Recognition of truths in your life is a big step toward a happier you. A bigger step is taking action upon that recognition.”~Me

We all have disappointments in our lives, those missed opportunities that we brought about by our own action or inaction. Nothing can be done about them now. Well, at least most of them can’t be changed. Looking forward is always the best thing to do, even if there are no regrets in your past.

For an article I wrote about a luncheon with a top executive and self-made woman with Coca-Cola visitDo your best…or not at all…advice from success”.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Smiles are medicine and more.

How often do you hear the phrase “live life like it’s your last day on earth” as a motivational gimmick?

Um, yeah, that sure motivates me. Think I’ll go write that book I always wanted to, or go and get married and have a kid. People have different reasons for using that expression above but hopefully you’ll never read those words from me as a way to attempt to get you to do something.

Instead, I want you to live each day to be the best possible person you can be on that day of your life. Today, smile at people—it freaks them out. Here in the South we expect smiles. It’s a cultural thing. A “nod and a smile” is what I’ve called it in the past. No, we’re not flirting, we’re saying you’re good, we’re good, just don’t either of us mess it up. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you look like, or what economic level you are “a nod and a smile” is expected.

I imagine there are things like that all over the world. Maybe in some places a nod and a smile is the equivalent of “let’s throw down and kick some hind parts”. When you wake up each day do so with the plan to nod and smile to some people you meet. No, I’m not giving you a number of people. That’s self-help mumbo jumbo and although I like to help people, I avoid things like that as much as possible.

You can’t help but feel something good when you smile. There is something scientific about it. Smiling actually releases dopamine.

“Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Dopamine also helps regulate movement and emotional responses, and it enables us not only to see rewards, but to take action to move toward them. Dopamine deficiency results in Parkinson’s Disease, and people with low dopamine activity may be more prone to addiction. The presence of a certain kind of dopamine receptor is also associated with sensation-seeking people, more commonly known as “risk takers.”~Psychology Today

Not only will you increase your social network and reputation as a nice person but you will be making yourself healthier as well. I watched a Ted Talk not like ago which stated one smile is like eating 1000 bars of chocolate. Give a smile a try right now, a big one and notice that feeling you get. There is a change. Crazy as it seems, smiles are medicine and more.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Be Honest for Yourself, NOT the World.

Do you show the world the real you? Do you hide? Are you afraid of the real you? Are you ashamed of the real you? Why?

There is a lot that goes into being the real you. You ever think about who you are and then think about who you were born as?

You know that jerk that lives next door or maybe in your own house? Guess what, he/she didn’t start out that way. Jerks are made, not born. That means who you are now, is not who you were born as, it’s who you were made into. And if you were made into something then you can be made into something else.

My Honest Self

I don’t present my honest self to the world because I am concerned with the world’s opinion of me. I present my honest self because I care about my opinion of myself. The world’s opinion can be swayed by mood, a word misunderstood, a lie spoken about me, or any number of other things I am certain you may think of.

Being my honest self does not mean I am a rude, intolerant, jerk of a man about things I don’t agree with or believe in. If asked I will say I don’t agree with something if I don’t agree with it. I do not have to be rude about it. I wanted to make that clear as some people are that way when they consider that as being what a person can be honest and true with about. Please refer to what I spoke of at the beginning of the article.

Today I want to be honest about who I am. I am a positive man, which has taken time to bring to the forefront of who I am. I am a positive man who is currently at battle with negatives. We are all at battle with negatives, however in my case I believe I am facing some extreme negatives because I am putting forth a message of positivity in hopes people will be helped and in a small way, a small step at a time, the world will change.

This sounds like a grandiose idea. Where else does every change of the world begin but with an idea of some sort? There are a great many problems in the world that could be solved with people starting by being positive about their own lives. By doing this, they can then be positive about others and for others.

My Honest Future

I love writing fiction. I do it for young people I know. Usually they are written as presents because I cannot afford anything else. I have written some for adults as well. I have written novels and submitted them, to only end up rejected. Rejected rightfully so.

Over the years I have come to terms with my writing and have improved as I have done so. I have not given up on my fiction. I have great story ideas, it’s the execution of those ideas I am working on. And I realized recently that I don’t need to be in a hurry and put out something that is garbage.

However, there is a part of me that I have been denying although it is obvious and throughout my writing here on my site. I am a teacher. Above and beyond anything else, that is what I am. That is what I was born to be. How I teach is up to me. What I teach is up to me. I choose to teach through writing. What do I choose to teach?

I keep returning to things ultimately leading to positivity. Therefore, I am going to teach on positivity. I have been doing that quite a bit of late, and I hope some of you have benefited from it. Moving forward I will be doing it in a, hopefully, better way now that I have accepted what I am doing. Fiction is not gone from my life. I love history and there will be historical fiction related stories from me. Some I believe need to be abandoned in order for me to become focused on what needs to be.

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That being said, there may be some changes here on Ronovan Writes, nothing drastic but perhaps a feel or a focus. I do hope you stick around to find out what happens as I explore a new path in this fork in the road I’ve arrived at. Poetry will remain, of course. Expression of feelings and thoughts through poetry is a way for one to deal with those feelings and thoughts in an artistic and useful form. Poetry is therapy. Much of my poetry, if not all of it, is therapy to me and it is honest and truthful.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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