Not all life is about life, it’s about living as well.
Playing in the in between moments of need, want, loss, and fear.
Relenting to the everyday only leads to the everyday.
For the Sijo Challenge this past week.
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Time for a change, don’t you think? As some of you may have noticed, I don’t really blog much these days, months, or however long it’s been. I guess I just haven’t really known what I’ve wanted to do, among other reasons. Sometimes you have to make choices between things, and blogging comes up second or last.
That being said, I’ve decided to focus, or continue to focus on positive things. What you’ll see from me are articles about how to make your life more positive and hopefully more satisfying. No one has all the answers but with more answers given, we can at least have something to choose from.
At the same time, I’ll be helping myself focus on things I need to. Also I tend not to post about my writing here as a courtesy, but you know, it is my blog, so if I want to share a chapter of something, I’ll share it.
It’s funny how we as bloggers trend away from what makes us happy about blogging and instead do things to please others. Eventually that causes burnout or a malaise about the whole thing. That happens in a great may parts of our lives.
I’ll be speaking about that this week, so see you on Monday, and start today enjoying your week ahead by saying no to something instead of always saying yes.
If you wonder what I’ve been doing with all my time lately, check out LitWorldInterviews.com, my book review and interview site. I’ve been reading a lot and interviewing a lot, all while getting my coming of age/romance ready to shop around to agents.
Much Respect
Ronovan
Today I had planned to have a couple of posts. Then life happened, but I still felt this sense of responsibility to have them done. I was falling into a trap that I recently talked about in another article. The traps for me are a bit different because this is my world, my place of friendship and connection.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I am not a huge stress-out person. I am pretty “chill” about things. But I live in an environment of stress and stress-magnifiers. I seriously wonder if those lives would be happy if there wasn’t some type of drama existing.
Sometimes that spills over and the riptide grabs me by the ankle and pulls me, while I bob along like a beach ball on the waves, and throws me on the shores of stress beach. I’m only a visitor and I always remember to step back and think of where and why I am in this stress situation. I know it’s not me. Not my problem, and I then decide how to calm it down. That’s me. I am the calmer-downer in Stressville. I am not exaggerating.
With the SMs, meaning stress-magnifiers so some of you need to get your minds out of 50 Shades of Grey at some point, doing their thing I got concerned I would not be able to have anything for today. I mean I had decided to reduce my blogging schedule to Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and then they happen. The reduced schedule is to work on my Romance novel.
To me, not communicating through my writing is more a let down to myself than to others. I almost let the SMs suck me into their world and change my mental outlook on life and how I handle things. But stressing would have made my reality moments worse and I realized trying to do too much or trying to create something entertaining or even thoughtful/inspiring wasn’t necessary. I just needed to write. Nothing fancy. Not really for anyone to read, but for me to talk, to let things out. And so I did. And here we are at the end.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.“ -Ralph Waldo Emerson
A #BeWoW and Writer’s Quote Wednesday post.
Much Respect-Much Love
Ronovan
Ronovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer though his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.
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I did a guest post on Meanings and Musings, Florence’s blog. Go take a look, won’t you?
People say things they don’t mean. Okay, maybe they mean them but they don’t intend nor do plan to keep those feelings. In the moment they have a burst of anger and say stupid things. I know, I said the bad word, stupid. At least it’s a bad word in my house.
Maybe it’s the TV my son watches but he does well with not saying things to hurt feelings. Gotta love Classics on Hulu.
Angry young lives should
Be taken seriously,
Guide your tongue wisely.
Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan
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People comment often wondering how I stay positive, how I keep doing all I do in the face of what I live with. How can I stay positive through the life I have been given?
Practice. I know that sounds a little odd but as with anything in your life practice needs to happen. I didn’t just wake up and say, I’m good. Okay, perhaps I did, but then I had to do something about it. And by ‘I’m good’ I mean I was not letting my health issues control every aspect of my life.
Deciding to change does have an instant affect. Your view of things does change. You actually begin to see MORE of the negative things of the world. But you have to learn what to do about that view. And that’s where the practice comes in.
You will change but those around you may still be those negative and less than wonderful thinking people. Therefore you need to strengthen your positive muscle.
To begin with you as you go through your day you file things into mental folders.
You can add as many folders as you need to, but those are three that are useful. Awesome and Needs Work are fairly simple to be positive through. But how about the So Not Worth It moments? This SNWI mental folder is where you put those things that happen that are basically useless uses of oxygen. Unfortunately. most of what you experience each day will fall in to that folder. At least it will until you realize you can do something about those moments.
You will instantly recognize them and not dwell on them. They might be insults at you or your favorite celebrity. But insults are words that people use who have nothing else going for them. Insecurities are a bear to live with. And bears lash out at times.
Just let it flow. Let it flow past you, let it flow in to that mental So Not Worth It folder. You have better things to do with your mental energy.
And let me tell you, mental energy exists. Don’t believe me? Think of the first crush you had and the devastation after your heart was broken. How exhausted were you? Were you so tired you thought you had the flu? That’s mental/emotional energy that is drained from you by these positivity vampires. That drain can get you down and keep you down. Avoid it at all cost.
Once you recognize things for what they really are you can then keep them from affecting you.
Start today by being positive with yourself and not LET others affect you. Is it easy? No. Will you achieve it in one day? No. Is that being positive? Yes. I’m positive you won’t be 100% positive in your first day of trying. Humor? No.
I can tell you what helps me, but you need to find what helps you. You need that go to that place in your mind that will make things okay for you. Is it a vacation spot, a favorite book, a TV show? Are you writing a book? Work on that in your mind each time something comes up. When that negative hits, think of that positive place. Eventually you will be able to process the negativity and turn it around. But that’s for a future discussion. For today, find that positive place for yourself and practice going there. Don’t ALLOW other people to CONTROL YOU.
The road to positivity begins today.
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Part Two of Becoming Positive: Being Positive to See the Positive
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“My Load”
I do not say things,
In order to burden you,
I must deny me.
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You may not know who you are
But you know who you’ve been
Never deny what you’ve become
Even if you consider your past a sin
What makes one search for love
What makes one search for peace
It’s the aching of the heart bone deep
That pain that seems to never cease
Shake the chains you have holding you down
Break them from your tender heart
Recognize them for what they are
They are your past, yes of you a part
Look at what you now see
No shackles holding you still
You’ve come this far so well
And you’ve done it by your own will
Some see you for your image
Longing for more than a touch
You’ve come not to know
You are worth beyond that so much
Taking one step each day
Reflecting on your deeds
Don’t dwell on your past
For you’ve other present needs
There is kindness in you that is noble
In every word and thought you share
Never doubt for a moment
That there is someone
In
This
World
To
Care
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