The joyful thaw.

Sometimes I cry, but not because I’m sad.

It’s because when I met you my heart was frozen.

You’re the one who warmed me through and through.

You brought this strange thing called love into my world.

And tears of joy, that come from the melting ice.

Your thoughts are your own.

Ever had someone say “Depending on your opinion I would have to ask what you’re thinking?”

I have and my response has been silence in the past because I just don’t care enough about the person’s thoughts on what I think, but now I decided to share my opinion about what I’m thinking.

If I or you have an opinion, it really isn’t up to someone else to question it. The only time that even becomes a thing is if you are in a debate. Sorry, but my life isn’t a debate with anyone. You ask, I give, you receive. That’s pretty much it.

I give in a gentle manner. At least to start with. I haven’t really “gone off” on someone, as they say. Or at least not in the traditional sense of the word.

Last week I gave two prompt words in my Haiku Challenge, Free and Think. You are free to think whatever you like. If we had thought police we would all be in jail. We all think some pretty whacked out stuff.

Could you imagine there being “Hate Thought Laws”? I mean think about it. “Man, I really think the president sucks.” The next thing you know you have someone in dark glasses and a suit at your door.

It’s not the thoughts that matter. It’s what you do with them. I may not like someone, but as long as I don’t do anything to them or speak in a too harsh manner then I’m good. I may say I don’t like someone. I don’t have to say why. But if I don’t and that person is of a different ancestral background than I am, can you guess what people will say?

Even if I say “I don’t like the guy because he’s a jerk,” people are still going to think what they want to. For example, I am not a big Obama fan, okay, I’m not an Obama fan at all. I’m from the South, I’m a white skinned male in his 40s. Guess what people will say my reason for not liking Obama will be.

Of course people would be wrong. But you know what? They have a right to think what they want to. Thinking is good. I get a lot of problems solved that way, a lot of issues with people sorted out that way. Thinking through things and even having an argument with someone in your head will save a lot of trouble with people.

Most of the time when I do that I end up realizing how silly something was to begin with. It’s a coping or therapy really.

Thinking is good. Policing my thoughts isn’t. Keep your filthy paws off my private thoughts. (Okay, so the Grease homage there didn’t work out quite right but I tried.)

Much Love, Success, and Respect

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The greatest opportunity. (A Haiku)

Freely give yourself

A great opportunity

Is in your own mind.


Freely give yourself a great opportunity.

A great opportunity is in your own mind.

Much Love, Success, and Respect


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Let a moment just be a moment.

I have been suffering a very bad migraine the past couple of days. Early this morning, not able to sleep, I decided to try a little meditation. I actually try various things to bring myself into a more positive mindset. No, I am not part of the mindfulness group. I haven’t done any research on it as of yet, as I am writing my own thoughts about some things first, and would rather they not be influenced at their base level.

As I meditated, my mind drifted. No surprise there. During meditation I was focusing on the breaths and the rising and falling of the body with each one. I focused on simply existing in that moment. That’s when the thought of positive and negative as not existing in the moment of being came to me. A moment does not acquire a label until we assign one to it. And that moment is gone before we can even give it a name.

I thought about why people can be so confused and depressed about things. A chain of moments are made up of what people would call both positive and negative moments. Our minds have difficulty processing what we think of as negative also having positive moments within it. But perhaps it is the labels that are the problem. Perhaps that moment is not a positive but not a negative either. Perhaps the moment simply is.

If you want to look at being positive as being without negatives, then try simply being. No, it won’t always work out that way, but it will a lot more often than you realize. We label things way too much. A glass breaks, and we get upset. Why? It’s a broken glass. It’s not a broken person. Perhaps it was an antique or had special memories attached to it. Yet, it is a glass. Don’t let a broken glass spiral you into something you can’t get yourself out of.

Sounds a little over the top? How many of you have found someone crying over something broken? You think the person is being a little silly about it, you just don’t quite understand even though you try. But that person labeled moments attached to those items.

Work on simply being, existing in the moment. Let a moment just be a moment.

Much Love, Success, and Respect


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My Sunday Thought: Insults Don’t Insult Me.

Some of you may have noticed I have a slogan or motto attached to the blog now.

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I’ve been asked the renewal of what. No, I don’t remember by whom. But I do remember whoever it was had read my Sunday Thought last week about the renewing of our minds or had at least liked it.

There are a lot of things I’ve seen in the news of late about some pretty, well, let’s just call them what they are. Stupid and even juvenile disagreements. A great many involve the back and forth Tweet fights of celebrities, usually music people. Sometimes it is between on artist that once was somebody who is trying to remain relevant by insulting a current somebody. The truth is they are really both nobodies as far as on my radar of celebrities of enjoyment. They simply waste mental energy and disrupt positivity for a moment of time that could be better used for something else.

Imagine if you will that one celebrity praised another instead. How often do you see that trending on any social outlet?

Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.  And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.~2 Timothy 2:23-24

First of all, don’t even try and confuse this with an idea of we should roll over and let a nation or a person just completely stomp us into the ground. These verses have been misinterpreted almost as much as, well actually not near as much as the following.

But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.-Jesus in Matthew 5:39

There is a lot of culture behind the wording of this and I won’t get into it too much but simply put it is saying to ignore the insults and the slights of the world because they really mean nothing. The left hand was the shall we say the unclean hand in the time of Jesus. People predominantly used their right to do things such as eating and striking someone but of course to strike me on the right cheek you would have to backhand me, a sign of believing I was inferior to you. An insult.

We get backhanded a lot. We get backhanded in our blogs, we get backhanded at work, in our relationships, in love and in pretty much ever facet of life. A big step toward renewal is to realize these are insults that do you no permanent life ending harm. It may take a few moments to realize that, but you will realize it, just pray it’s not too late.

A 16 year old boy, I emphasize boy here, calls me a cripple  in a grocery store. Do I let him know he has touched a nerve by retaliating? No, I do something I talk about in an old article I wrote back in May called Don’t ALLOW People to Control You. It’s advice from a very successful woman I heard at a business luncheon probably 15 years or so ago. I do not mean some large gathering with hundreds of people. There were maybe 50 people there and we were able to actually have a good discussion. Perhaps that is why I went home and typed up the notes from that meeting.

I’ve learned through the years to let the petty little garbage things go. I don’t give it space in my mind or heart that belongs to loving and adoring. That gives me a lot of loving and adoring to give. It also gives me a lot of ability to step back and look at situations in a fair manner. You learn how to look beyond things that spark that emotional reaction inside of you.

A lot of things this past year could have been avoided if dealt with in a mature fashion and would have set such a great example in many ways. But people are ALLOWING things to happen.

To get to the point of Renewal you need to get rid of the old habits  you have of ALLOWING others control over you.


My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.~James 1:19-20

do not lose your temper



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