Change your mind…change your life.

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. (James 3:9-10)

One way to change your life is to change your mind. One sign of a changing mind is a changing tongue. Years ago I was a swearer. I wasn’t a major profanity person but I used some language. And yes, I was a Christian then too. Then I found out I was going to be a father so I made the decision to change. If I was going to tell my child to be a certain way, shouldn’t I be the living example of that way?

To do this I made certain to not fill my life with things that were filled with what I didn’t want. I changed my music listening, reading, TV viewing. No, I didn’t become a fanatic about it, but I did make deliberate decisions. An example would be TV. If a show happened to have a bad word in it as part of a scene because the scene was emotional or something, okay, I got it. If the whole show was laced with it, and had scenes that sensationalized things it shouldn’t, I stayed away.

The same thing went for music. Although for that I mostly went to Contemporary Christian music. I like it. I still listen to my old 80s music for fun. And there are some music acts I like even now. But I still heed my initial parameters. And let me tell you, it is sad when you hear a song with a good beat and then they start in with the language or sexist or derogatory content.

You can’t be two minds on a matter or it comes out in your language. If you give lip service to a subject you will get found out. People like to think you are what you are. No, you are what you turn yourself into. It’s been over a decade since I made myself a promise to watch my language. I continue to fulfill that promise. I’m still cautious of my viewing and listening indulgences. I figure if I’m not participating, that’s one less vote, so to speak, for that type of content.

Do you think you can change your life by changing your mind? Can you change your views of the world by changing your mind? Pick something this week that you know you shouldn’t be doing or saying and work at altering your life by finding out why you say that and then stop. For me, I found that by not having all those music and TV influences I was able to easily stop using language, even when people around me at work were using it. See what you can do this week.

Much Respect

Ronovan

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Boast in your weaknesses.

That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (2 Corinthians 12:10)

Sometimes you need to go to the book itself when you’re given a verse to read for the day. So I did, and read what led up to this statement by Paul to the Corinthians.

I like Paul because he’s not afraid to talk about his own failings, although he keeps his main failing, the ‘thorn’ in his flesh a secret, he still admits he has one. So what does the verse mean?

I look at myself as an example. I have Fibromyalgia which is also known as Chronic Pain. I have Chronic Fatigue, migraines that are always present, with variance in intensity, light and sound sensitivity, a sleep disorder, as well as spinal problems and other health issues. Why do I even look at those weaknesses in delight? Or perhaps the insults I’ve received at times?

Because with the help of God, those weaknesses, insults, and persecutions didn’t stop me from doing something I’ve dreamed of for decades. In fact, because of those weaknesses I may  have accomplished my goal of becoming a published author.

I took what life gave me and worked with it. I didn’t say that because my life isn’t the norm, that I couldn’t accomplish something. Even today I don’t know when I will sleep, when I will be awake. Sometimes I sleep three hours out of 48 and I will turn that into something useful in writing. What better way to describe sleep deprivation than being in it?

Anyone can brag about something they’ve done. But boasting about a weakness is something else. Overcoming hardships to be normal or even being extraordinary is something to talk about, but it’s mainly something to look to and realize help was given along the way. God directed me to write a book, or a few really. Within three months of an accident that changed my life forever, I’d written a book that I am about to shop to agents. I shouldn’t have been writing anything, but I had this need inside of me to challenge myself to accomplish something I’d never done before, write a romance novel. So it turned out to be a coming of age novel more than a romance. I still did it.

Having that helping hand to guide me, to support me, to lift me up when I fall backwards, is something that I know I can rely on and makes me more fearless in what I do. I am not afraid of weaknesses or failures. I use them.

Much Respect

Ronovan

Ronovan Writes’ Week #101 Haiku Review with Links.

Click the underlined, blue links to visit the haiku of each poet. All poets, please remember to visit the prompt throughout the week so you can visit those who enter later than you do. We all need each others support. You are missing some great haiku.

Ronovan Writes Haiku Review

Annette of Annette Rochelle Aben with a message many need to hear these days, and the days to come, titled Winds of Change.

Sandra “The Wild One” Daffodil with Native, do a twist on the prompt and winding up with a unique idea.

Ruth of Image & Word came up with Deadlock about a alternative to the present to get to the future.

FLOrida Borne of Two On A Rant. Okay so it’s really Floridaborne but I like calling her Flo and pronounce Borne as Bornay yes, I like being weird. She gives us How a Writing Frenzy Feels, with an original photograph that taken during extreme winds.

Jane of Jane Dougherty Writes, yes the author, gives us the Trifecta this week.

Xenia of Whippet Wisdom, yay another dog with blog who lets its owner post sometimes! Fresh Winds Whisper Peace and I believe it with a photo of dogs on a beach. Can’t beat that. Pulling out the puppy card always gets attention.

Srivi, The Piscean me, has Messy Hair! this week. And I do mean messy.

Nato of Chasing Life and Finding Dreams ended up being Always with me this week. I love how she keeps me in her thoughts long after I’m gone. (Sigh.)

Alice the Boomerang Zone queen speaks straight from the headlines of the week with Orlando Massacre. Need I say more?

Judy, the published poetess of Edwina’s Episodes pipes in with Flying Forth. Yes, it’s a weird title for it but I made it up. That happens if  you don’t name ’em. 😛

Bill gives us Renewal. Not sure if I like the haiku or the description of what he was doing at the time of thinking of it better.

Ken from RIVRVLOGR came up with Fresh Wind. OOOoOOOooO all deep and romantical.

Mira who sometimes can be found To Wear A Rainbow wrote for us this week my lover… Another romantical one.

Ritu over at But I Smile Anyway apparently is sending a message that Wind seems to be Awakening her Hayfever. Don’t wonder about it, just click and read.

Willow of Willowdot21 says too much to be said in one title. Three haiku with some nice images to match.

Leara of LearaWrites enters the fray with Dragonfly At Dawn. Wouldn’t that make a great book title?

Clarence speaking through his PrairieChat gives us his Summer Dreams.

Marie from The Syllabub Sea and Fresh wind. And more romantics going on.

Colleen the Silver Threading Fairy Whisperer wrote Summer Awaits. Considering where she lives, the weather can’t make up its mind what it wants to do.

Mira on her They, You and Me blog with first rain going all nature on us.

TJParis gives us Prayers in the Wind on his la vie est trop courte  boire du mauvais vin blog. Um, you need to go and read the photo description for this one.

Jacqueline of A Cooking Pot and TwistedTales wrote Wind of life this week. Three tales with the same twisted theme.

Debra on her author blog D.B. Mauldin came up with a fantasy of fiction I wish were true. Oh the agony a Windward Dreams.

Shida the 876LoveR likes to frolic in the Summertime.

Janice, nature’s best friend over on Ontheland, wrote four haiku with the title of Fresh Winds.

Oneta of Sweet Aroma wrote Evening’s Peace. Man, I need this to happen. The big boy is dragging as he writes this. Been on the go the last couple of days. Summertime for me means less rest, more fatigue, and being cook and entertainment coordinator for my 11/12 year old son, B. Okay, so he entertains himself mostly but I hate him sitting alone so I stay with him and we do stuff.

OBA of The king’soracle gives us I broke the old cycle!

Maria at Doodles and Scribbles wrote Ildio, a haiku of inspiration and peace.

Melissa The Aran Artisan gives a cultural lesson with Native sean nós singing on Inise  Mor.

Lizi of Quilted Poetry and Springtime Songs, a nice take on the word wind.

Tolulope from Ruby’s Polaroid wrote Ocean Dreams. Just the name is good enough to be great and I haven’t even read the haiku at this point.

Denis visits from Haiku Hound. Charlie appeared to be enjoying the day more than Denis in this photo of their Windy Memory.

Khor from Project Prose wrote New beginnings, an inspiration for those needing a lift to their lives.

Clarence visits one more time from PrairieChat with Bellicose Boasts. So that’s why we get all those storms in the South that time of year. Hmm.

Scott writes Scents over on TheHouseOfBailey. Yeah, she let him out again. I like the two sentences here. One of somewhat peace if you think of it that way, and the other one instilling a bit of fear.

Tricia of A Creative State of Mind gives us Summer Song. Now, I have to say, some of these things in the image can drive me insane, but those made by a true musical ear can be very nice.

Sri of Naa Prapancham,My World… wrote Afresh. I like how so many people went with fresh outlooks on life. A very positive week.

Dependable R. Todd from A Flash of Fiction showed up with The Promise, with something that should bring some memories of you to many of us. It even gave me a little flash. Which if you know me, you know a flash of memory is a good thing to have. Thanks, dude.

Greg of Nagrij Writes the Hits You Never Knew Existed (Yes, that is the name of his blog.) gives us Oil Spill. So there went the positive outlook on life. 😀 Very descriptive in so few words. Worth the visit and read.

Vashti and The Writer Next Door. The writer that lives next me doesn’t look anything like Vashti. Thank goodness, or I would never end up writing. Anyway, this author writes What If Mother Nature Wanted A Fresh Start?

Florence from Meanings and Musings writes Climax. She has a refreshed view of life after a trip of destiny.

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Rebirth of a Man. #WQWWC

The difference two years can make in a persons life is beyond imagining. Blogging can end up being many things in your life. For me, it was a way to begin having something to do, something to wake up and ‘work’ at. For a man who’d worked his whole adult life, it was unusual to find himself in the land of nothingness, although in truth, I didn’t really know what that meant at the time. Amnesia can do that to you. It’s odd to think about what you do and do not remember.

I never had expectations from blogging. Maybe I wanted people to read my work. Originally this was to be a Christian site. With the first post it became a writer’s site. I still try to keep it along the lines of Christianity in tone and demeanor, but as goes a Christian life astray at times, so goes a blog post as well.

“When love awakens in your life, in the night of your heart, it is like the dawn breaking within you. Where before there was anonymity, now there is intimacy; where before there was fear, now there is courage; where before in your life there was awkwardness, now there is a rhythm of grace and gracefulness; where before you used to be jagged, now you are elegant and in rhythm with your self. When love awakens in your life, it is like a rebirth, a new beginning.” John O’Donohue

When I first began blogging I wrote some of the darkest poetry I’ve ever put pen to. I couldn’t write like that again if I were paid. It’s not in me. I’m a happy person now. I’m content with most of my life. I think friendship and having people care about me has changed me a lot.

I don’t dwell in the land of self-pity any longer. I don’t check in to depression hotel. I used to have a buy two nights get the third one free deal with the DH. Now, I don’t even get junk mail or spam for specials.

I’m so content that I have a hard time writing poetry at all. That may sound odd, the thinking being that maybe I would be able to write happy poems, but really it’s that I just do ‘think’ about things because they all go well right now. Well, maybe not all. When those things don’t go well now, they are even worse than my old bad days. Now I know what good is like so the bad moments are that much worse. However, I know there is another way of life than sadness.

My rebirth began two years ago, in June. I didn’t know it at the time, but looking back now I can tell it did. Two years later and it’s as though life has taken an even bigger leap into the good zone. By all rights I should be depressed at this moment, but I’m not. Things are good, real good. The outlook on life is good. Confirmations have happened. Affirmations. Other ‘tions’ I’m sure I can’t thing of at the moment.

Love is a wonderful thing to have. Rebirth in almost every way can be seen as the results of love, caring. If you need a new life, look for love. Love’s the best medicine you can find.


You can check out the other Rebirth entries  HERE, on SilverThreading.com, Colleen Chesebro’s site, my other half for the Writers Quote Wednesday Writing Challenge. This was her week to come up with the theme.


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Rebirth of a Nation. #WQWWC

I generally like to do multiple quotes either as a list or to weave through a commentary on Wednesday to go with the Writer’s Quote Wednesday Writing Challenge or #WQWWC. This week, what with all that’s happened recently in Orlando, FL here in the US, I stumbled across one quote I felt pretty much sums up how America is.

“You know Americans are obsessed with life and death and rebirth, that’s the American Cycle. You know, awakening, tragic, horrible death and then Phoenix rising from the ashes. That’s the American story, again and again.” Billy Corgan

The sad thing is, the lead singer of the Smashing Pumpkins is right. But the American story needs to do away with some of those repetitive chapters, and do so soon. It may take some ugly steps to do it, some things most of us will just not like.

I’m someone who has to do things and be on the side of things and told I’m just not right a lot. It’s difficult, but I’m okay with it because I know it’s the right thing.

 


You can check out the other Rebirth entries  HERE, on SilverThreading.com, Colleen Chesebro’s site, my other half for the Writers Quote Wednesday Writing Challenge. This was her week to come up with the theme.


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