How Young People Can Be Our Examples.

Sunday Thoughts has returned. My views on my Christianity and how I see it through reading the Bible and not listening to the dividing of interpretations.

Today let’s talk about how young people can be examples to us old folks, well maybe older folks.

There are so many problems in the world today that I don’t even bother speaking about them here any longer. They exists. We know they exists. I won’t give those movements, or murders for celebrity sake any further exposure by putting their names in my writing. That’s partly why some do what they do, they know they will go out in a blaze of glory and be on the news for several hours–at least–and then mumbled out for a few days following.

Instead of glorifying them, unexpectedly so, by naming them, people of all ages should help others not go that route.

How?

There is really only one way to do that and that is by being an example.

No matter your age, you are an example ALREADY. You may be an example for good or for bad. I don’t want to hear arguments that there is no such thing as something being good or bad and that it is simply something based on ones personal views. I am certain many people reading this could  come up with examples of what is bad. I don’t want to think about the examples that come to my mind. So let’s move on to being more productive.

I periodically am in touch with former students and some say how much they look up to me and appreciate me. The funny thing about that is I’m envious of them and what they have going on in their lives. Great college experiences are being entered into. Futures are waiting to be discovered and shaped. And I don’t shy away from expressing that to them, that appreciation of them.

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.”-1 Timothy 4:12

Here you see there is no age to being an example. We can learn from the young as much as the old. My son, who has learned from me a great deal of his, will say or do something and I learn from him. The young see things in a way that is less colored by years of experience and wounds.

Those wounds are caution signs for us, but they can also be false signs in some cases. There are exceptions to every situation–every rule. We can’t spend our lives living in fear of the exceptions and miss out on the exceptionals.

I’m not saying we should ignore our past experience in favor of youthful belief, but I am saying we can capture that belief in moving forward with caution instead of either not moving at all or moving backwards.

How does this all make to improve the world?

We continue to be open to the world, to communication, to experiences, to views. We refuse to let a bad experience dictate how we view similar situations. Yes, I mean we don’t allow past moments to let us not like people of a certain color–as one example. Think about it. If we did that we wouldn’t like any skin color at all.

And there we are. The problem. We really don’t trust very many people to the extent we need to. We don’t trust situations. Jadedism is one of the worst isms out there. We just don’t believe the good because we only witness the good being debunked in the news. The true good is rarely if ever reported with as much gusto and zeal as the bad.

Young people will listen to young people and follow young people a lot more freely than us old folk. Even us old folk that try to be a good example. Us old folk can be examples too, and perhaps help with the old folk problems as well as the young folk problems by not giving fuel to problems. We fuel things, as well as young people fueling things, more than we all realize. Young and old working together will make it work.

Much Respect-Much Love

Ronovan

Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer though his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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It is here. #BeWoW

Today is a good day to be  blogger. Why? Because I’m using my brand new laptop.

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Okay, so it’s a pretty good day. This whole Microsoft whatever I am using and Windows 10 has me all messed up but I’m working on it. It took me forever to move an image on my screen with this trackpad without the buttons of my old Toshiba. Well, that is until I remembered I had a touch screen laptop. (And I just figured out how to highlight all the stuff on my screen so I came back and added this.)

Yes, the laptop has arrived. All shiny and new and thanks to all of you who helped out. Money was raised through a fund started by Florence of Meanings and Musings and through a couple of bloggers extra was added to help get something that would work well for me, last a while, and help me with some of my health problems in the use of the machine. Seriously, that touch screen is a blessing. I want to remind everyone that none of this was my idea. Even the computer picked out was not my idea. But people have my best interest at heart and know what I need. And I trust those who do.

I want to thank all of you who donated and/or spread the word that led to those donations. I’m not going to mention any names because future folks in need will end up knocking on the door of those poor soft-hearted souls when perhaps my need came along at the right time when they were able to help.

With the amount I was given I came in $2.74 under that total with a laptop, a new headset to use for recording vlogs that I have wanted to do, and had it shipped quickly so I could get back here in full force as soon as possible. Don’t worry, the headset was not an expensive one.

That amount was beyond anything I ever imagined. You foolish, kind-hearted people. I don’t know what to say other than thank you. Those words aren’t enough for what you’ve done. Other events of late would have made it impossible for me to  have acquired anything on my own and the doing the short snippets of blogs with a tablet and relying on old posts I had in my draft folder was difficult. Big guy…itty bitty working space. I wear at least a size 14-15 ring if that tells you about my fingers and a tablet screen.

Many people don’t trust people online. They don’t believe them, they don’t understand how people that have never spoken to one another and in some cases never even seen a picture of each other can be friends and do more than their own at home friends and family would.

Be yourself.

Be honest.

Be kind.

Help others without expectations.

“Good character brings good friends.~Ronovan

If that thought is true, I must have the best character around.

Much Respect. Much Love.

Ronovan

Much Respect-Much Love

Ronovan

Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer though his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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The dream of a writer; the reality of an author.

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”~C. S. Lewis

I believe every person passes through numerous dreams and down many roads on the way to what they will finally become. For some of us we find the roadblocks, the forks in the road, the detours, and at times a dead end. I’ll be using several quotes from famous individuals today, as I am prone to do , however I also enjoy using quotes of my own.

“There is no such thing as being lost. We’re simply taking a more scenic route.”~Ronovan

I have taken many forks in the road in my life on the road to becoming an author. I’ve even sat stalled on the side of that road, but I always find my way back. Those moments of “adventure” add to the experiences my characters are able to struggle through or joy through.

“A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others.” ~Ayn Rand

Not having a good memory after the concussion, I’m not certain if I ever wanted to rule the world of writing. These days I like the sense of accomplishment when completing a novel and submitting it. Even those form rejections are okay these days. Rejections means I tried. Lots of rejections means I tried a lot.

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”~Confucius

Having that memory problem and other health problems means it takes me a bit of time to complete things. I’ve had to re-read chapters to know what I was writing to begin with…short  term memory problems can be a bear for a writer. But just as time takes care of many things, makes many things better, and adds flavor, it also adds to what you can put into a project you are working on.

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”~Norman Vincent Peale

When I wrote my romance, as a challenge to myself to write outside my comfort zone shortly after my accident, I didn’t know what I would do with it. I fussed over it for a time. Then recently with the downfall of my laptop I returned to reading that romance after some encouragement.

Not halfway through, I discovered I was an author. I read on the kindle screen a book. Not only a book, but a very good book. I was smiling and feeling along with the characters.

I am now working on that book and will not stop until it is in a state of submission, either through the mail or by headlock.

Time. There is nothing that can be successful without time. Even a race is won after hours and years of practice.

“Write what you know, but show what you feel.”~Ronovan

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Much Respect
Ronovan

Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer though his blog RonovanWrites.WordPress.com. His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as LitWorldInterviews.WordPress.com.

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Finding Happiness.

I did a guest post on Meanings and Musings, Florence’s blog. Go take a look, won’t you?

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Hello to all. Florence doesn’t know I’m here right now so please…don’t tell I came for a visit.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”~Oscar Wilde

I give a great deal of thought each day on achieving happiness. Actually thinking in great depth about something brings me happiness, so I guess I fulfill my quest for it each day.

Being able to devote copious amounts of time, and quiet time at that, I’ve wrestled the subject of contentment from many different sides.

To make a very long struggle short for the sake of your sanity and my strain in writing these days, I now give my oh-so-wise realization.

Determine the things that give you joy.

So often you are asked “What makes you happy?” and then, how often do you either struggle for an answer or allow your shoulders to sag and reply with, “I don’t…

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Use your life to make a friend.

A short message today, for obvious reasons to the usual suspect of reader friends.

Doing without is an experience we all say we wouldn’t wish on anyone. I was thinking about doing without my laptop, not in a drastic or tragic sort of way, but with how my mind works it rambled to other places.

Going hungry, sleeping in a car, going without the love of a parent. Sometimes those experiences allow you to understand others better. Those moments in your life humble you and ground you. No, I don’t wish anyone to go through those moments either.

But for those who have?

Embrace whatever the experience, no matter how difficult and use it to help others, even if that help is simply doing the hardest thing there is…being a friend.

“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.”~Bernard Meltzer

Much Love & Respect

Ronovan

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Your thoughts are your own.

Ever had someone say “Depending on your opinion I would have to ask what you’re thinking?”

I have and my response has been silence in the past because I just don’t care enough about the person’s thoughts on what I think, but now I decided to share my opinion about what I’m thinking.

If I or you have an opinion, it really isn’t up to someone else to question it. The only time that even becomes a thing is if you are in a debate. Sorry, but my life isn’t a debate with anyone. You ask, I give, you receive. That’s pretty much it.

I give in a gentle manner. At least to start with. I haven’t really “gone off” on someone, as they say. Or at least not in the traditional sense of the word.

Last week I gave two prompt words in my Haiku Challenge, Free and Think. You are free to think whatever you like. If we had thought police we would all be in jail. We all think some pretty whacked out stuff.

Could you imagine there being “Hate Thought Laws”? I mean think about it. “Man, I really think the president sucks.” The next thing you know you have someone in dark glasses and a suit at your door.

It’s not the thoughts that matter. It’s what you do with them. I may not like someone, but as long as I don’t do anything to them or speak in a too harsh manner then I’m good. I may say I don’t like someone. I don’t have to say why. But if I don’t and that person is of a different ancestral background than I am, can you guess what people will say?

Even if I say “I don’t like the guy because he’s a jerk,” people are still going to think what they want to. For example, I am not a big Obama fan, okay, I’m not an Obama fan at all. I’m from the South, I’m a white skinned male in his 40s. Guess what people will say my reason for not liking Obama will be.

Of course people would be wrong. But you know what? They have a right to think what they want to. Thinking is good. I get a lot of problems solved that way, a lot of issues with people sorted out that way. Thinking through things and even having an argument with someone in your head will save a lot of trouble with people.

Most of the time when I do that I end up realizing how silly something was to begin with. It’s a coping or therapy really.

Thinking is good. Policing my thoughts isn’t. Keep your filthy paws off my private thoughts. (Okay, so the Grease homage there didn’t work out quite right but I tried.)

Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan

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The greatest opportunity. (A Haiku)

Freely give yourself

A great opportunity

Is in your own mind.

 

Freely give yourself a great opportunity.

A great opportunity is in your own mind.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Acceptance to A Better Future.

Yesterday in my article Peacemaker to Positivity I mentioned accepting the events of your life in order to be at peace with yourself and to use those events to help others who experience similar things. That’s a lot to ask of someone.

There are events in this world that are difficult to accept. But you are either accept them or ALLOW them to run and ruin your life. And events are events. They are moments in time. Moments that have already happened and cannot be changed.

We all go through the “If only I had…” moments. Those are the “I am holding myself back” moments. If you are a parent you try and do things through you child you wish you had done. As a spouse you want to be more perfect than whatever your parents were.

We are going to fail in both of those. Our children are not us, so whatever they do is for them, not us. And our parents were them and not us. No matter what others do, it is them that do it. By accepting and moving on we can become a success at something on our own, for our own. We can help other people.

I know there are those moments that are truly horrible, but what can you do about them? Don’t ALLOW them to turn you into something you aren’t. Don’t ALLOW anyone to win over your life but you.

 

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Stand Up to Release.

caroline kennedy quote imageIt is not easy to stand up against your constituents or your friends or colleagues or your community and take a tough stand for something you believe is right. Because you always want to keep working and live to fight another battle and it might cost you your career.”~Caroline Kennedy

How often do people like to tell you that what you think is wrong or what you believe is wrong? And how often do you then stay quiet or back down?

A lot of people complain about the world but are silent when it comes to the things they have problems with.

Part of being positive in the world, finding your positive place and place of peace is to release those things inside of you. If you believe in something, then live that something. If you believe something is right, then stand up for that something.

Negativity comes from regrets. Regrets come from not doing things you should do. How often is your mind filled with those missed chances at standing up for what you believe in? More often than you think. Your fantasies and dreams stem from missed chances. You may think about a better job. Maybe that better job you want is because you missed an opportunity you thought should be yours.

Do you think about possible relationships? Broken relationships? Maybe even a current relationship that is poison?

Fear keeps people from standing up for what they think is right. That fear will lead to a life time of negativity, doubt, sadness, regrets. You don’t have to confront people, you can simply say that it’s over and be done with it. Walk away.

Other issues require speaking up. I know for a fact that anger can build up by being silent. That anger interferes with attaining the peace you want. Look at the quote at the beginning. If people don’t accept you for you and what you are and believe, then you don’t need them, they aren’t your friend or people you need to be around or a workplace you need to be in.

Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan

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Blogging Mental Health: Phobias, Disorders, Anxieties

Phobias, Disorders, Anxieties. You know we all have one of these. And actually the labels can often be interchangeable so don’t judge a phobia by its disorder, you’ll just cause anxiety.

I am very prolific in my blogging. I write an article or poem a day except on Saturdays, and sometimes even then. So it seems that I have a problem that people don’t understand. It’s become worse over time since I began blogging.

And when I mention it, well the subject, people’s responses just make it worse because they don’t get it. It goes back to my concussion a couple of years ago.

Before that I was a very engaging person. Never met a stranger. Could have a conversation with anyone. But since then, and the retrograde amnesia, things changed. You know I kind of get afraid of things. And I became so isolated because of not only the amnesia but the light and sound sensitivity, and the migraines, that people actually became a problem.

I am now at the point I don’t go to stores any longer. I very rarely step outside the house at all. I’m okay with the no people in person thing though. I mean, I like being alone now.

My communicating with the world is through my articles. And unless you are a super close person to me, I don’t even talk in emails.

That brings me to the problem. And it’s kind of sad I even have to mention it, but I’m going to anyway so people will understand people like me, and not judge us.

When people comment on blogs, well some of them almost demand a response. I have a fear or responding. Don’t ask me why or what it is, but if you ever see a response it has taken a lot for me to get up to the point to do it. I have almost been to the point of removing the comment option from the blog. But people have met through my comments and helped each other.

I’ve mentioned comments before in articles and the responses have made it worse. People pride themselves in responding to every comment on their blogs. They brag about it in the comments. Some actually do genuine responses, but there are also those who do fake responses. If you’ve been blogging long enough you know what I mean. I personally am not going to do fake responses just to make my blog grow. That’s not me.

When I first began blogging I was able to make myself respond, but things have gotten worse as time has passed. I want people to know they can blog however they like and grow a blog. It’s your content that matters. If you have something people find worthwhile, that’s all that matters.

Don’t let other bloggers who say you must respond to every comment in order to be a good blogger, a successful blogger, force you to do anything. If you are like me and feel physically ill sometimes at the idea of having to respond to a comment, learn to not worry about it. I do it at times because a comment really requires a response, or I am having a good moment.

Is it a Social Anxiety issue? Maybe. Is it some kind of phobia about people? Maybe. Sounds like they are both the same to me.

If you read my blog and you comment and I don’t respond, don’t take it as I am not reading your comment or that I am not appreciating it. Sometimes I will click like on the comments to show I read them and appreciate them. Some people are Blog Nazis and don’t think that’s good enough. Whatever.

I’m good with what I can do. You be good with what you can do. Don’t judge. This is my outlet. This is how I talk to the world. And this is the last time I am going to talk about comments on this blog. I’m tired of it. Almost as tired as I am of people complaining about me not replying to comments.

Much Love, Success, and Respect
Ronovan

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In the Quiet Hours. Find Positivity.

Confucious Silence is a Friend

In the Quiet Hours. Last week I discussed Creating a Positive Environment and how you needed to be serious about it and how there would be difficult decisions to be made. Something unusual happens when you enter a quiet place. That place being the newly formed room in your chaotic mind.

Do you really want to be rid of negative relatives? I pretty much no longer speak to one of mine. I have reflected on that and came to realize something. I came to realize how that break actually came about.

Over the past weekend I lost my peaceful world for a time. I was angry with the citizens of my nation and their ugliness in exchanges over various issues. I was angry at myself and my situation in which parts of I have no actual control at the moment, but I am working on it. I was angry at the drop of a hat.

I tell you this to show you that there are times you slip out of that Positive Environment. Why? Because we are human and our brains are truly chaotic. AND our brains are connected to our hearts. Those hearts do so much good and so much damage.

fancis bacon silence nourishes wisdomAm I angry now? I have turned anger into disappointment. Disappointment is something I can handle. I can eventually turn disappointment into a moment in time in a string of events to a better time. I can examine and grow myself by learning what I felt and thought during those anger moments.

To learn I need a quiet room in my mind. I need those Quiet Hours. Quiet Hours lead to quiet times, quiet environments. By being the person you want to be, others see it. They will either like it, accept it or they will reject it. If they reject it and you are someone they cannot push around with their words and antagonizing, they slowly leave your environment, or quickly do so.

In other words, you don’t need to tell a negative person to leave your life, they will do it on their own when they can no longer handle the shining light of positivity and happiness you exude all the time.

Now you can actually confront and remove someone from your life but that’s a decision for you to make. It also depends on how bad that person is in your life. No situation is the same. There is silence of the mind and silence in wisdom and there is also the silence in cowardice. This is not the  later. That is a discussion for another time.

helen keller content in whatever stateI found the below after I wrote the article and came up with my title. I don’t believe in coincidences. I and Find Positivity to the title after I had completed putting this article together.

This may not load in all regions. You can also find it on Spotify and Rhapsody. It is also the name of the album, track two I believe.

In the Quiet Hours

You will light my way.

So needless our words.

Let’s just spend the day.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Live in the Now, not with the Ghost of the Past. #BeWoW

nemoMy theme this week so far has been silence. Keeping one’s silence is golden. You appear wise when not engaging a fool, even if you are a fool yourself, which in some way or other we all are.

Living in the moment for me means I don’t ALLOW those old moments to flare up my emotions to interfere with my dealings with the moments of today.

If we all ALLOWED them to happen, we would never love as we all most likely have had broken hearts.

By living in the moment we ALLOW ourselves to experience things we would have missed out on otherwise. We don’t ALLOW fears to get in the way of adventures. By this I mean foolish fears, not wise fears that bring us caution.

Living in the moment is a difficult thing to do at first. With practice it can be done.

ALLOW yourself to enjoy life. ALLOW yourself to be more than you ever imagined.

As pain is the past,

The future’s in the present,

With great hopes and dreams.

Here are some free Kindle books pertaining to living in the moment. I haven’t read them yet, but they have good reviews and I thought I would bring them to your attention. Quotes are from Amazon Book Descriptions. Click images for Amazon book page.

41aih0k2u+L._AA160_“After reading Remove Negative Thinking, you will be able to:
– Recognize and remove your negative thinking patterns throughout the day
– Reframe how you see the world
– Connect to your passion and purpose
– Focus on abundance and live in the now
– Move outside your comfort zone
– Stay motivated and surround yourself with positive people

 

51R+3-36xNL._AA160_“This inspirational guide reminds you that life can be good, no matter what challenges you may be facing right now. Be present, see the divine at work in all circumstances, and experience ordinary life as sacred. Learn to practice the art of abundance as a form of spiritual awareness based in gratitude. “

 

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Wisdom in Silence.

At first I was not intending to do a post for today but when I read Hold yourself in silence… by Florence on her blog Meanings and Musings thoughts went somewhere.

Is the expressing your thoughts and engaging in debate a sign you are wise?

She means a cultural aspect to this concept. I think quite often people are trained from an early age to speak up and give the answer, to show off they know, be the first to raise their hand in class. But is that the way it should be? Is wisdom a race?

Now, Florence does not talk about wisdom being a race or contest, her article simply led my mind somewhere and then it raced off in this direction as I thought of my son and then the world in general.

When I read her article the first thing that came to mind was the following.

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Words can be twisted, even well intentioned words. Those who hold there words in the heat of emotions and when goaded into a battle of words has more power when they do speak.

Look at politics. Let a candidate speak long enough and they will eventually shoot themselves in the foot by saying something like let’s put a colony on the moon.

Today is a good day to practice silence. Silence, such as as the unheard tremor deep in the ocean or the blowing of a wind can create a powerful force over time. Hold. Silence. Then when released? Power.

Here are a few currently free e-books on Amazon I saw today. I picked ones with plenty of good reviews. Some humor, some wisdom, but all will give you wisdom in some way.

charles-bridges-proverbsSelected passages with explanations by Charles Bridges from 1840. C.H. Spurgeon commented upon it-“The best work on the Proverbs. While explaining the passage in hand, he sets other portions of the Word in new lights.”

 
 

rosie-blythe-being-a-cat“Rosie Blythe has obviously been owned by a princess cat. She knows the world of cats and explains how you can channel your own inner cat too. This book is cute and funny and pretty creative. I especially loved the section on how to spend a day as a cat. Mostly you will laugh as you read this. If you have cats and know cat behavior very well this will totally amews you.”~The Rebecca Review

Yes, it’s a humor thing but I thought some would enjoy some fun.

tai-sheridan-buddha-in-bluejeansPoet and Zen Priest Tai Sheridan’s ‘Buddha in Blue Jeans’ is an extremely short, simple, and straight forward universal guide to the practice of sitting quietly and being yourself, which is the same as being Buddha. Sitting quietly can teach many ways to accept life, meet pain, age gracefully, and die without regret. The book encourages sitting quietly every day.

lon-g-stewart-walking-with-jesusDr. Stewart spent a total of fifty-nine years preaching in eighteen different countries, as a pastor of three different churches, and teaching an adult Bible class. He and his wife Lorrie live happily in Gilbert, Arizona; and as this book is going to press, Dr. Stewart is working on his fourth book! He is happy to give God all the praise for his very fulfilling life.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Creating a Positive Environment

Listing negatives and living in the here and now, in the moment without looking to the past for what we’ve missed and regretted and to the future for what we wished we could have. That pretty much sums up the past three weeks of thoughts about becoming more Positive.

Positivity doesn’t just happen. As I’ve mentioned before, you need to take baby steps to create a lasting mindset of positivity. A qToday I want to discuss a little about creating a positive environment to grow in. Don’t worry, I’m not going to ask you to move rearranged your furniture, at least not yet. Hmm, maybe I will. Let’s see what happens.

First you need to decide how serious you are about wanting a better life. Some decisions might seem drastic to you. Some will be seriously life changing. But if you are wanting not only a better and more positive you but also a better and more positive around you, then tough needs to happen.

The Definition

Second you need to learn what your environment is. Many people only think of the physical state of what I mentioned earlier, furniture or paint or curtains or a garden. But environment is many things.

“1:  the circumstances, objects, or conditions by which one is surrounded

2a :  the complex of physical, chemical, and biotic factors (as climate, soil, and living things) that act upon an organism or an ecological community and ultimately determine its form and survival

b :  the aggregate of social and cultural conditions that influence the life of an individual or community”~Merriam-Webster’s

By looking at the definition of environment you may see where we are headed. You may not be able to rid yourself of all things negative in your life but you can be rid of what you can be rid of. One way to do this is to realize what is and is not important to your life.

Getting Started

Once again, a difficult/tough process, but one that is required. As always, start with the easy things first. For me it was things like music and other medium that gave me negative messages. Just because a song had a good beat I might have liked it but the lyrics were actually derogatory and very negative. I was hearing them but not really using my brain to say, this stuff is not worth it.

As for media, such as news articles and the like, I look at headlines and decide if I want to read or not. Do I need to know about certain celebrities and their fights with each other? Do I need to know about every single incident of any type of crime in existence?

Family and Friends?

The difficult things? Family? Friends? That’s where it gets a bit tricky. And it’s why you start with what you can control with a little more ease.

I know some people who are horrible to certain people but nice to me. Why? Maybe because I am positive and not negative to them all the time? I don’t know. But I do think it helps.

How you look at things can determine how you handle things, interpret things and how people look at you as well. You influence others by how you act and thus you change your environment. Does it always work that way? No, but it does work a lot of times.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Quotes of Habits & Attitudes.

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“Habits are strange. Some are positive and serve us well, and some are negative and do us harm. However, we profit when we remember we entered this world with none and we will depart with none. As habits form silently, constantly, and relentlessly, their pervasive impacts are often unnoticed. Yet they control our life. Although productive habits are invaluable, and bad habits are costly and difficult to break, all the effective listening leaders I know spend an inordinate amount of time studying, consciously shaping, and refining their habits.”~Chuck Maragos

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“Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”~William James

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“Whatever your present situation, I assure you that you are not your habits.

You can replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of the effectiveness, happiness and trust-based relationships.”~Stephen Covey

maxwell-maltz-self-image“Our self-image and our habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other.”~-Dr. Maxwell Maltz

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“The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering the attitudes of their minds.”~Albert Schweitzer

From Saturday: Quotes of life. From previous Thursday: Quotes of Motivation.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Habits-Good or Bad?

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On Monday I wrote an article titled Let a moment just be a moment and as a result of comments I began thinking a little bit. No comments from the usual suspects please about me thinking.

Emotional reactions and assignment of labels to events are habits. That can be good or bad or if you would rather you can call them beneficial or non-beneficial, as I often look at them that way myself. Some ‘good’ habits may not be beneficial or necessary. Recognition that you have these habits, either in a good or bad way, is a great benefit to you.

Knowing you have created habits through the years, and if you examine your life you will likely see where certain habitual reactions began, you can either work to continue on a positive path to increase those beneficial reactions or work to decrease those negative ones that cause harmful effects on your life.

I know there are people out there that think how you are is how you are going to be forever. Let me tell those people this. “You’re wrong.”

Here’s the deal, yes, pretty much all of our lives are habits. Every aspect of our lives involves habits, other than the biological process such as breathing and the like. And even with breathing you can create a habit or routine manner of breathing in situations.

Think about that one for a moment. If you think when someone talks about your Momma you have to hit them or insult them back, then you’ve got a habit going on and you’ve also ALLOWED that person to own you for a time. They got you. They know your sore points, your weaknesses.

Just like in boxing when fighters prepare for an opponent they are training to how that opponent fights. They know what their opponent’s favorite moves are. If you don’t have habits then you can’t be owned as easily, including not being owned by your own weak mindedness.

Overcome your negative view of not being able to control your habitual reactions and thoughts through creating healthier habits of positivity. A way to begin is by looking at that List of Negatives I asked everyone to create a few weeks ago and think about how they became negatives. Examining and understanding your emotions and thought processes is one of the key factors of creating a positive you. A positive you is not just for you alone, it’s for all those who associate with you.

Everyone you know will benefit from a more positive you.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Feeding is not nourishing… by @FTThum

An Awesome post written for #BeWoW. Well, I think it was written for far more than that but it happened to coincide with it. I know she worked on this a few days and it came out great. A definite MUST READ for everyone. Seriously. Don’t miss this one.

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Busy-ness and stress are no strangers in my life. I am adept at managing it all. To replenish my energy, I meditated, slept the requisite 6 hours, ate nutritious food, made lists and check them off – everything to ensure daily life ticks over as it should. Well, I probably could have gotten more than 6 hours sleep if I ‘gave up’ writing but life would be unbearable :-).

Then a friend reminded me to nourish myself. It was then I realised in the midst of ‘doing’ living, I’d somehow forgotten to care for myself. You see, to look after myself as in to nourish myself takes more than eating the right foods and sleeping the recommended number of hours. I know this.

In essence, nourishing is more than meeting biological or physiological needs. Nourishing is about feeding the spirit and soul. By the way, nourish comes from the…

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Let a moment just be a moment.

I have been suffering a very bad migraine the past couple of days. Early this morning, not able to sleep, I decided to try a little meditation. I actually try various things to bring myself into a more positive mindset. No, I am not part of the mindfulness group. I haven’t done any research on it as of yet, as I am writing my own thoughts about some things first, and would rather they not be influenced at their base level.

As I meditated, my mind drifted. No surprise there. During meditation I was focusing on the breaths and the rising and falling of the body with each one. I focused on simply existing in that moment. That’s when the thought of positive and negative as not existing in the moment of being came to me. A moment does not acquire a label until we assign one to it. And that moment is gone before we can even give it a name.

I thought about why people can be so confused and depressed about things. A chain of moments are made up of what people would call both positive and negative moments. Our minds have difficulty processing what we think of as negative also having positive moments within it. But perhaps it is the labels that are the problem. Perhaps that moment is not a positive but not a negative either. Perhaps the moment simply is.

If you want to look at being positive as being without negatives, then try simply being. No, it won’t always work out that way, but it will a lot more often than you realize. We label things way too much. A glass breaks, and we get upset. Why? It’s a broken glass. It’s not a broken person. Perhaps it was an antique or had special memories attached to it. Yet, it is a glass. Don’t let a broken glass spiral you into something you can’t get yourself out of.

Sounds a little over the top? How many of you have found someone crying over something broken? You think the person is being a little silly about it, you just don’t quite understand even though you try. But that person labeled moments attached to those items.

Work on simply being, existing in the moment. Let a moment just be a moment.

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Quotes of life.

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Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

George Bernard Shaw

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Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.

Marcus Aurelius

MG-speedThere is more to life than increasing its speed.

Mahatma Gandhi

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My life is my message.

Mahatma Gandhi

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Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.

Confucius

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Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.

Dalai Lama

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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Live in the Now, not in the Then.

“The only use of an obstacle is to be overcome. All that an obstacle does with brave men is, not to frighten them, but to challenge them.”~Woodrow Wilson

Two weeks ago I asked you to Make a List of Your Negatives, while last week I said to get rid of one of those negatives. Two problems with that last one. One, the article was long and few people read it. The other problem, for those who read it I imagine you were expecting me to tell you how to get rid of those negatives. By the way, there was more to the article than ‘get rid of one of those negatives’.

Today I’ll attempt to be brief and tell you how to be rid of negatives.

X Out the Past and 0 Out Your Future

Let’s take your list of negatives in their nice columns and for every negative that comes from a past event place an x beside it. For every negative whose source lies in the future, in other words something you are wanting but can’t have yet or may never have, place a little circle beside it.

Now realize you are looking at things that cannot be reached or dealt with in the present. Wait before you start yelling about controlling what might happen in the future.

Those Past Negatives are in the past. Unless you want to apologize to someone or forgive someone, you are most likely out of luck. Drop those Past Negatives. And if you haven’t apologized or forgiven in all these years and are having problems with it, that’s called Regret. You can visit my Regrets are where they belong, in the past from this past Wednesday for some good quotes about regrets.

Know You Are In The Now

Expecting anything from someone else is a Negative you will never control. That’s one Negative you are to never allow to take a rest in your mind. It’s time to live in the now, not the yesterday, not the future, but the now. Here. Now. Not in the what you wished you had or what you hope to have, but in the what you have. You can work toward what you want to have some day, but that’s some day. That’s a goal, not a Negative.

Take your list, do the x’s and o’s and start working your way through those x’s. And really, if you are strong enough, you can toss them all, but if you haven’t already done that, then you most likely will need to take the baby steps I’ve talked about previously. There is no hurry, no race, no trophy.

You need to:

  • Think about why that Negative happened
  • What you had to do with it
  • Why it is still hanging with you
  • What can you do about it
  • What it has done to your life
  • Then realize it is over

That last part is the most difficult. Read through the article again and you’ll see why you are to let it go and let it be over. You’re in control of it all. Don’t ALLOW anything, especially a memory to control YOU.

Live in the here and now, and enjoy life.

“When faced with a challenge, happy families, like happy people, just add a new chapter to their life story that shows them overcoming the hardship. This skill is particularly important for children, whose identity tends to get locked in during adolescence.”~Bruce Feiler

Much Love, Success, and Respect

Ronovan

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